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Hello neighbours,
Posting on behalf of my cousin Jag!
Photography is my passion and my weekend job as well :) In case you have been thinking of a family photoshoot, please do have a look at my facebook page facebook.com... if you do like them, then don't hesitate to get in touch with me.
… View moreHello neighbours,
Posting on behalf of my cousin Jag!
Photography is my passion and my weekend job as well :) In case you have been thinking of a family photoshoot, please do have a look at my facebook page facebook.com... if you do like them, then don't hesitate to get in touch with me.
My offer for you is that you decide the price you want to pay, your satisfication with the photos is my ulitmate goal.
This offer is valid till 12th March 2017.
Hope to hear from you soon.
Cheers
Jag
0210757658
Jag Jubbal Photography
For all your photography needs in Wellington, feel free to drop me a message.
Hi as it is such a great season this year I have decided to have a Wednesday and Thursday mid week special where the PYO blueberries will be $18Kg not $22 Kg. This will continue for the next two weeks starting from the 22nd Feb until the 2nd of March. Such a good price so spread the word as the … View moreHi as it is such a great season this year I have decided to have a Wednesday and Thursday mid week special where the PYO blueberries will be $18Kg not $22 Kg. This will continue for the next two weeks starting from the 22nd Feb until the 2nd of March. Such a good price so spread the word as the berries are big and plentiful.
I look forward to seeing you all, Carolann
To extend the mid week special this week I will be opening late this Wednesday and Thursday evenings until 7.30pm so you can come after work or dinner to be able to take advantage of the $18kg price which finishes this week. Normal price is $22kg and the address is Blueberry Fields Forever 971 … View moreTo extend the mid week special this week I will be opening late this Wednesday and Thursday evenings until 7.30pm so you can come after work or dinner to be able to take advantage of the $18kg price which finishes this week. Normal price is $22kg and the address is Blueberry Fields Forever 971 Whitemans Valley Road, Whitemans Valley, Upper Hut. ph 5287581. I look forward to seeing you Carolann.
Hi I have been made aware that some locals don't know about us even though we were featured on the Topp Twins. Located at 971 Whitemans Valley Road, Whitemans Valley, ph 5287581. PYO organic blueberries open Wednesday to Sunday 9-5. Oddly it is a fantastic season with lots of beautiful berries… View moreHi I have been made aware that some locals don't know about us even though we were featured on the Topp Twins. Located at 971 Whitemans Valley Road, Whitemans Valley, ph 5287581. PYO organic blueberries open Wednesday to Sunday 9-5. Oddly it is a fantastic season with lots of beautiful berries that are easy to pick, I look forward to seeing you. Cheers Carolann
Parents/Grandparents/Carers or anyone looking after babies/children, there is a playgroup at the Uniting Church Hall 346 Stokes Valley Rd. every Monday during school term time. 9.15am to 11.30. The Kirk playgroup has been running for over 30yrs and we cater for babies thru to school age. We have … View moreParents/Grandparents/Carers or anyone looking after babies/children, there is a playgroup at the Uniting Church Hall 346 Stokes Valley Rd. every Monday during school term time. 9.15am to 11.30. The Kirk playgroup has been running for over 30yrs and we cater for babies thru to school age. We have a large variety of toys and activities and in warmer weather we have water play set up outside. Morning tea is provided the children just need a drink bottle. There is also really nice coffee, tea or hot chocolate for the adults along with great company. $1 per child.
Please come and join us and if you want more information you can txt me on 0273014462 or 9381159
It's hard to believe there's just five weeks (2 April) until daylight savings ends and our clocks go back. So we want to know. Would you like more daylight in the evenings? Are you happy returning from work in the dark? Do you like the idea of clocks going back early May - rather than … View moreIt's hard to believe there's just five weeks (2 April) until daylight savings ends and our clocks go back. So we want to know. Would you like more daylight in the evenings? Are you happy returning from work in the dark? Do you like the idea of clocks going back early May - rather than early April? Share your thoughts on whether you love or loathe this idea and make sure you vote in our Daylight Savings poll too.
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If you have any spare double knit wool and or size 8 knitting needles we'd love it if you could donate it to our 'Knit and Natter' group at Strand Home (at Wesleyhaven Village).
Thanks
Jenni
I read this blog by Sheila Wray Gregoire from to love, honor & vacuum this week and I would love to share it with you all.. 9 ways to get out of a Sexual rut.. if you like to read more of her blogs, I have attached a link below.
So I know ...Your all busy. You don’t have a lot of time to … View moreI read this blog by Sheila Wray Gregoire from to love, honor & vacuum this week and I would love to share it with you all.. 9 ways to get out of a Sexual rut.. if you like to read more of her blogs, I have attached a link below.
So I know ...Your all busy. You don’t have a lot of time to connect during the day. The house revolves around the kids. Then evening comes and you head to bed. And as soon as you hit the pillow you start drifting off to sleep. But you think, “I wouldn’t mind having sex tonight.” You wonder if he wants it. You wonder what you should do about it. But the thought of having to seduce anyone sounds simply EXHAUSTING especially when you’re already drifting off.
If you could just start without having to feel someone out or try something elaborate to initiate, you would. But you wonder if it’s worth the effort when you’re so tired…
Can you relate? Has your sex life disintegrated into a major sex rut? So let’s see what You can do!
1. Schedule Sex
It doesn’t sound romantic, I know. But if the “game” of figuring out are we going to tonight is just getting too tiring and demoralizing, then sometimes scheduling sex and knowing that “Tuesday nights and Saturday nights we’re going to rock each other’s worlds” can take the pressure off of having to try to get them in the mood. You both know it’s going to happen, so you both get ready.
Here’s a longer post on how scheduling sex works if you want to try it.
2. Head to bed half an hour earlier
So many of these problems in the bedroom could be solved if people simply weren’t as tired when they headed to bed! So try going to bed half an hour earlier. When you stay up playing computer games or watching Netflix, you may think you’re relaxing after a busy day. But then when you do get to bed you’re just so tired that anything else seems like too much effort!
Change your evening routine. The things that we do earlier in the evening often determine how that evening will go. So if your bedtime routine isn’t working, check out the few hours that lead up to bedtime. Maybe you need to start changing what you do then so that when you get to bed you’re not as tired!
3. Reserve a half hour earlier in the day to talk
Here’s another impediment to sex: before couples are often ready to make love, they feel like they should connect by talking. But if you’re tired to begin with, the thought of having to have a half hour conversation before you can even begin to try to initiate sex can make the whole thing seem like too much work.
So have that conversation earlier in the day! Get off of the games and Netflix and head out for a walk after dinner. Or tell the kids, “you guys get to clean up dinner while Mummy and Daddy get 20 minutes to ourselves in the living room–with no children bothering us.” I’ve known families that make that the rule. And kids get it after a while.
4. Create a signal that says, “I’m interested”
What is it that’s so exhausting about initiating sex? Is it that seeing if they’re interested seems like you have to jump through too many hoops? You have to try to romance them when it really should be a lot easier? Then create a signal together that says, “I’m interested if you are.” Friends of ours put candles on both bedside tables and if they were interested, they’d light the candle. It didn’t mean “we have to tonight”, but it did mean, “if you want to, you don’t have to go through that whole 15 minute seduction first.” We can get right to the foreplay!
5. Create a signal that says, “I’m NOT interested”
I like the candle idea, but I actually like this one more. I try to tell myself that my default is always “yes”. Sure, I’ll have sex tonight. After all, it helps me sleep better! But there are some nights that I really don’t want to, either because I’ve got too much on my mind or I really don’t feel well. And on those nights I’d like to let Keith know. He really doesn’t want to have sex if I’m not that into it, and I hate turning him down. So if you’re in that situation–where you’re more likely to say yes, but sometimes you just need to say no–then create a “No Trespassing” signal for those difficult nights.
Maybe you wear No Trespassing flannel pyjamas. Maybe you put in ear plugs. Just talk about it so the other spouse knows the signal!
One of our problems is that Keith thinks I’m giving him “no” signals when I’m not at all. I might complain during the day that I’m stressed or that I have a headache, and he thinks that means, “there’s no way she’s interested tonight.” But what it more likely means is, “take my mind off of all this stuff that’s running through my head!” But he doesn’t try anything, I’m too preoccupied to be the one that makes the effort, and we both go to sleep frustrated.
So I’ve had to learn to tell him, “this is not a NO signal. This is just me venting.” And now ear plugs are my signal that, “I’m going to sleep now.”
6. Try Morning Sex
If evening sex just isn’t working because you’re in this major sexual rut where you always do the same thing, neither one of you likes initiating sex, and it all seems like too much work–then try morning sex! Some people just have more energy in the morning. It’s lighter in the room. It starts the day off well.
Here’s a longer post on the benefits of morning sex for those of you who may want to try it!
7. Take turns being the “aggressor”–the more active one
Couple get into this sexual rut largely because they’re both sick of trying to convince the other person to have sex. It really should be easier than this, shouldn’t it? And when you’re lying there thinking, do I have to reach out tonight?, you sometimes just give up.
We tell kids they have to take turns, so maybe you should take turns, too! If he initiates one night, then that means that it’s your turn to initiate the next night. And when it’s your turn, go all out! Start kissing him passionately. Put your all into it, because you know that next time he’s going to put his all into it.
Warning: for this to work, you each have to agree on the frequency that you’ll make love. If you decide, about 2-3 times a week is good, then it works fine. But if one of you wants 3 times a week and one wants 2 times a month, then going back and forth will backfire! And if your husband never initiates sex or never wants to make love, then there are deeper problems than just a sexual rut. Read the links to help you there.
8. Be blunt
What is it that has plunged you into this sex rut and stopped you from having sex? Is it feeling like you have to go through this whole seduction process? Is it wondering if they want to or not because they often turn you down? Is it feeling like you have to convince someone?
All of this can become a “game”, because you’re not really being upfront with someone. The seduction thing can be fun–if you’re on a romantic weekend together and you have a ton of time. But that can be tiring on a day-to-day basis.
We’d all benefit from some more open communication! How about talking with each other and just saying, “I think we’re not having sex as often because we’re always second guessing what the other is feeling. So how about when we get into bed, we just be upfront and honest.” And decide on what you can say, like, “I’m up for it totally!”, “Honestly, I wouldn’t mind tonight, but you may have to get me in the mood a bit because I have a lot on my mind,” or “I want to give you a gift–but I don’t think I’ll get into it tonight, and I’m okay with that.”
We think sex=seduction or else it’s not real. But if open communication means fewer mixed signals and more sex, even if it doesn’t seem as romantic, I’m all for it!
Just make sure that your spouse is able to be that blunt, and able to take it if you’re that blunt!
9. Add some humor
Sometimes you can get out of a sexual rut by adding some humor!
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Try out these delicious high-energy Granola Bars! They're perfect as a snack, popping into lunch boxes or as a quick brekkie on the go. What's even better about this recipe is there is a dairy and gluten-free alternative! Check out the recipe now.
Bring in any food cans to your local Resene owned ColorShop this weekend and we'll swap your food can for a Resene testpot!*
Add a splash of colour not only to your life but to that of a disadvantaged Kiwi; all food cans will be donated to The Salvation Army local foodbanks and other … View moreBring in any food cans to your local Resene owned ColorShop this weekend and we'll swap your food can for a Resene testpot!*
Add a splash of colour not only to your life but to that of a disadvantaged Kiwi; all food cans will be donated to The Salvation Army local foodbanks and other community foodbanks, while you save up to $5.50 on each testpot purchase.
Don't miss out - there is nothing to lose with Hunger for Colour! but you've only got until tomorrow!
*60-80ml testpot
If you prefer two wheels to four then don't forget we want to see you tomorrow (Saturday 25 February) to share our early plans for the Beltway Cycleway. Drop in any time from 11am - 2pm at The Dowse Art Museum (James Coe 2 meeting room) to hear more about this exciting project.
The proposed… View moreIf you prefer two wheels to four then don't forget we want to see you tomorrow (Saturday 25 February) to share our early plans for the Beltway Cycleway. Drop in any time from 11am - 2pm at The Dowse Art Museum (James Coe 2 meeting room) to hear more about this exciting project.
The proposed cycleway will provide a connection between residential areas, workplaces, the hospital, schools, the CBD, local shopping centres and public transport hubs. We want to use the rail corridor to create a cycling 'spine', extending between Seaview and Taita. It will also link to the planned Wainuiomata and Eastern Bays shared pathways as well as the Hutt River Trail.
If you’d like to find out more, call in tomorrow, we look forward to seeing you!
It was a tough start to the year for a group of Lower Hutt primary school students preparing for a triathlon. Students from Pomare School in Taita have lost the use of 10 bikes, which were stolen from a locked shed last month. About 20 bikes on loan from community project Biketec were stored … View moreIt was a tough start to the year for a group of Lower Hutt primary school students preparing for a triathlon. Students from Pomare School in Taita have lost the use of 10 bikes, which were stolen from a locked shed last month. About 20 bikes on loan from community project Biketec were stored ...
It's hard to believe there's just five weeks (2 April) until daylight savings ends and our clocks go back. So we want to know. Would you like more daylight in the evenings? Are you happy returning from work in the dark? Do you like the idea of clocks going back early May - rather than … View moreIt's hard to believe there's just five weeks (2 April) until daylight savings ends and our clocks go back. So we want to know. Would you like more daylight in the evenings? Are you happy returning from work in the dark? Do you like the idea of clocks going back early May - rather than early April? Vote below - and then click here to discuss the idea with your neighbours!
Volunteer street collectors needed for our Street Day Appeal next Friday March 3rd.
Please email fundraising@kitteninn.org.nz
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We are excited to be collaborating with iconic artist Dick Frizzell and Cooking 4 Change to find New Zealand’s most deserving charities and community groups! Nominate your most deserving local community group or charity to be in with a chance to win 1 of 3 ‘Freezzell’ fridges, artworked and… View moreWe are excited to be collaborating with iconic artist Dick Frizzell and Cooking 4 Change to find New Zealand’s most deserving charities and community groups! Nominate your most deserving local community group or charity to be in with a chance to win 1 of 3 ‘Freezzell’ fridges, artworked and personalised by Dick Frizzell.
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