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It's Guy Fawkes weekend and we want to encourage everyone to have fun and stay safe this weekend. Please do not bring alcohol or drink it at:
Day Bay Beach: the foreshore area between Marine Drive and Ferry Road to the north, and Waeranga Road to the south from 6pm Sunday 5 November to 6am … View moreIt's Guy Fawkes weekend and we want to encourage everyone to have fun and stay safe this weekend. Please do not bring alcohol or drink it at:
Day Bay Beach: the foreshore area between Marine Drive and Ferry Road to the north, and Waeranga Road to the south from 6pm Sunday 5 November to 6am Monday 6 November. At other times this applies from 9pm to 5am and,
Petone Beach: from the corner of Hutt Road and Jackson Street, Jackson Street up Britannia Street, along Udy Street, down Cuba Street to Heretaunga Street, along Heretaunga Street along the eastern end of Petone, along the length of Petone foreshore, Hutt Road to the intersection with Jackson Street at all times.
To keep everyone safe there is also a bylaw prohibiting the lighting of bonfires within reserves, including the above foreshore and beach areas. Please don't light any large fires (greater than 1m diameter) on reserves, beaches and the foreshore within 5 metres of any vegetation or timber structures, or above the high tide mark.
Have fun everyone and stay safe!
The Wellington version of the monopoly game is on the market with its 22 themed squares and though Lower Hutt, Porirua and Kapiti are included, Upper Hutt misses out apart from what could be termed as being shared with Lower Hutt in respect of the Hutt River though the scene is from the lower … View moreThe Wellington version of the monopoly game is on the market with its 22 themed squares and though Lower Hutt, Porirua and Kapiti are included, Upper Hutt misses out apart from what could be termed as being shared with Lower Hutt in respect of the Hutt River though the scene is from the lower aspects of the river.
Upper Hutt houses the Wellington Royal golf course, the Wellington Racing Club's racecourse and the Wellington speedway
This is one curry restaurant that lets its food do all the talking. Our very own Eric Janssen gave Spices 4.5 stars and says it's well worth a visit. Do you agree?
Conflict is not inherently bad (or good), and neither is anger. Conflict is a necessary part of any relationship, and can move a relationship out of a stagnant state. It’s healthy when it helps people see their own strengths and weaknesses, and all couples experience conflict at one time or … View moreConflict is not inherently bad (or good), and neither is anger. Conflict is a necessary part of any relationship, and can move a relationship out of a stagnant state. It’s healthy when it helps people see their own strengths and weaknesses, and all couples experience conflict at one time or another.
But conflict is unhealthy when it’s the prevailing state, defining the relationship with a chaotic, loud, and tense energy. A basic ground of peace is necessary for any relationship to thrive and endure. If you are experiencing ongoing conflict in your relationship, read these 7 tips for help.
1. Give up your need to be right
The need to win every argument, every point, indicates emotional immaturity. If you really care about someone you don’t want him or her to feel patronized, belittled, or manipulated—which is what happens when you fight your partner to validate your ego at every possible opportunity. And if you and your partner are constantly butting heads, and you didn’t use to, it’s a sign of deeper trouble in the relationship.
Relationships thrive when both people decide to bravely work through conflict together rather than retreat into battle positions and fight until the actual problem is forgotten and exhaustion sets in. Even if you know you’re right, about whatever seems so important in that moment, is proving it worth making the most important person in your life feel stupid?
2. Don’t use passive aggressive silent treatment
Not speaking to your partner when you’re angry with him or her is a no-win communication strategy, but many people do it. It builds resentment between you and your partner and prolongs an argument. Despite leaps forward with Artificial Intelligence, we still can’t read each other’s minds, so glaring at your significant other and expecting them to know why you’re so angry is not going to work. It will just make them feel punished, confused, or even angrier than you are.
To resolve a strong conflict, you have to have some faith in the other person—if you tell them honestly what’s bothering you, will they listen or close you out? Set rules to fight fair, early in the relationship: no silent treatment, listen without judging, don’t go to bed angry.
3. Choose your words
Your words start as thoughts, then turn into actions (which turn into habits, and character). When you constantly tear down your partner with mean words, patronizing tones, or ugly curses, you’re building your character, and it’s not pretty. Choose the words you speak with care, and pause to breathe in the middle of an argument. Besides dampening the potential in a relationship, constantly shooting out negative words like arrows will make your own life less interesting, less happy. Choosing words out of love and respect actually builds good karma, and it builds up the relationship. You’ll hear more kind words in return, too.
4. Slow down your discussion
One of the strategies I’m often getting couples to do in my therapy room is to slow down. When you’re triggered and feeling frustrated and angry in a conflict, it’s hard to keep track of what’s being said because the discussion moves so quickly. Slow down the process so you can listen carefully to what your partner is saying without reacting quickly. Take time to reflect before you respond. Just this simple strategy can completely change the conversation and de-escalate the rising tensions.
5. Let go of your hang-ups, let go of the past
Holding onto past hurts—from conflicts, perceived slights, a bad night’s sleep, anything—increases their power over you. Don’t keep a tally of who wins what argument in the relationship; it’s juvenile and pointless. Forgiveness is giving up the hope of a better past. Bring your attention to this moment, to where the relationship is right now, free from the baggage of your last fight. That’s the only way to move the relationship forward with dignity and new energy.
6. Repair quickly to get back on track
After a fight, whether it’s mild or a category 5 cyclone, work to repair your relationship quickly. This includes making a sincere apology, if you need to take responsibility for causing your partner hurt. Maybe you and your partner couldn’t resolve the conflict before you went to sleep, and you slept in separate beds because of this. First thing in the morning, sit down and talk. Don’t go off to work still mad at each other. Lingering discord will affect both your days and the relationship will have one wheel off the track. Forgiveness gets easier every time you do it. The best couples seek to resolve hurts and conflict quickly, so they can get back on track and feel united.
7. Take care of your self
You can’t care for a relationship properly if you’re not caring for your self too. Sleeping well, exercising, spending time breathing deeply in a quiet room: all of these acts of self-care will build up your physical and emotional health. They clear your head and lower your blood pressure. And they calm wild emotions, as from conflict in your relationship.
Do you need relationship help?
If you need relationship help, contact Ann Jay for a FREE 15-minute phone consultation to discuss your situation and find out how I can help. Call now on 021 26 89 842
After months of anticipation, Wellington's very own version of Monopoly has finally launched, with the city's sites, places and landmarks front and centre. Oriental Bay and Lambton Quay scooped the coveted dark blue spots while the National War Memorial drew the short straw as one of the … View moreAfter months of anticipation, Wellington's very own version of Monopoly has finally launched, with the city's sites, places and landmarks front and centre. Oriental Bay and Lambton Quay scooped the coveted dark blue spots while the National War Memorial drew the short straw as one of the cheapest properties on the board. What streets or sites were you hoping to see included? Comments may be used in print unless marked NFP (not for print).
Crowds well and truly exceeded expectations at Highlight over Labour Weekend with more than 120,000 people turning out to see the installations. What did you think of the carnival?
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Wainuiomata Summer Pool is having an open day this Saturday and Eastbourne Summer Pool and McKenzie Baths Summer Pool are having open days on Saturday 11 November.
It's free entry on open days so don't miss out!
It seems that summer has suddenly arrived, and with it the fun of fireworks. But at Fire and Emergency NZ we know that we will see more unnecessary fires and injuries during the next couple of weeks.
We don’t want to be the “Fun Police” or try to stop others from having some fun with … View moreIt seems that summer has suddenly arrived, and with it the fun of fireworks. But at Fire and Emergency NZ we know that we will see more unnecessary fires and injuries during the next couple of weeks.
We don’t want to be the “Fun Police” or try to stop others from having some fun with fireworks, so here are some helpful hints to make your Guy Fawkes night safe:
• Follow the instructions on the fireworks, but read them with a torch, not a naked flame!
• Make sure that the area where you’re lighting your fireworks is a big open area away from anything that could catch fire
• Never let a child light fireworks.
• Keep a bucket of water, or a garden hose while you’re lighting them.
• Keep all the unlit fireworks in a closed box or a bag away from where you are lighting them, until you’re ready to use them.
• If one of your fireworks doesn’t go – don’t try to relight it, stay away from it and dispose of it carefully later.
• If anyone gets burnt, put the burns under cold running water for at least 20 minutes.
Please, point the fireworks at the stars, not your mates, or your pets, or your house, or…… You get the message.
Have fun. Keep Safe, and remember, if the worst should happen in your home…
Get out and stay out
In a fire, get everybody out and call 111.
And whatever you do, stay out.
If you're thinking about building a home, there's some important information that you need to be aware of before you get underway. Register for FREE at attend an info session near you, so that you can hear why new builds are in HOT demand - and how we're helping locals in your … View moreIf you're thinking about building a home, there's some important information that you need to be aware of before you get underway. Register for FREE at attend an info session near you, so that you can hear why new builds are in HOT demand - and how we're helping locals in your community.
Our team of Jennian experts are here to help and would love to meet you. Come along to this complimentary Home Builders Info Session on us, we'll be sharing our construction industry knowledge and to find out how we can help get into your dream home. Feel free to ask us any questions you might have about building in summer or any time of the year!
Planning for the future of our region is a huge focus for us at Greater Wellington right now. We’re looking at the big issues we are facing as a region. To help us prioritise our activities we need to understand What Matters to everyone in our community.
Ensure your voice is part of the … View morePlanning for the future of our region is a huge focus for us at Greater Wellington right now. We’re looking at the big issues we are facing as a region. To help us prioritise our activities we need to understand What Matters to everyone in our community.
Ensure your voice is part of the conversation by visiting www.WhatMatters.co.nz... and help us keep our region extraordinary.
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At Heartland Bank, we share Neighbourly’s commitment to Kiwi communities and we’re proud to offer seniors the opportunity to stay in the home they love.
A house is more than bricks and mortar and a community is more than a boundary on a map; both are full of memories and comfortable … View moreAt Heartland Bank, we share Neighbourly’s commitment to Kiwi communities and we’re proud to offer seniors the opportunity to stay in the home they love.
A house is more than bricks and mortar and a community is more than a boundary on a map; both are full of memories and comfortable connectedness. If your parent is having a tough time making ends meet, but don’t want to sell their home to fund the things they need or want, consider talking to them about releasing some equity in their home with a Heartland Reverse Mortgage.
Come along to the ACC Paralympics New Zealand Open Day in Wellington at ASB Sports Centre (10am to 3pm).
Meet Paralympians Sophie Pascoe, Mary Fisher, Kate Horan and Para athlete Libby Leikis!
An Open Day is your opportunity to find Para sport opportunities in your area, watch demonstrations, and… View moreCome along to the ACC Paralympics New Zealand Open Day in Wellington at ASB Sports Centre (10am to 3pm).
Meet Paralympians Sophie Pascoe, Mary Fisher, Kate Horan and Para athlete Libby Leikis!
An Open Day is your opportunity to find Para sport opportunities in your area, watch demonstrations, and get amongst the action yourself.
You’ll also have a chance to chat with Para athletes and coaches and find out how you can get involved. A variety of Para sports will be included at each event such as Wheelchair Basketball, Para cycling, Boccia, Para athletics, and there’ll be lots more to see and do.
The Open Days are FREE to attend.
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