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Happy to sell just table or chairs separately and open to reasonable offers.
Would like it gone by 1 December.
- Table in excellent near new condition (table was always covered in tablecloth)
- Comes with 6 Chairs (used but in good condition)
- Upholstery still looks good
Measurements
… View moreHappy to sell just table or chairs separately and open to reasonable offers.
Would like it gone by 1 December.
- Table in excellent near new condition (table was always covered in tablecloth)
- Comes with 6 Chairs (used but in good condition)
- Upholstery still looks good
Measurements
1800mm x 900mm x 750mm height
Kia Ora!
It's that time of year when people are little more stressed than usual.
Our new Beginners Yoga course starts on Thursday at 7pm.
1.5 Hours once a week for 6 weeks.
Relaxed enviroment to try and/or start a new wellbeing habit and connect with other people in the community.
… View moreKia Ora!
It's that time of year when people are little more stressed than usual.
Our new Beginners Yoga course starts on Thursday at 7pm.
1.5 Hours once a week for 6 weeks.
Relaxed enviroment to try and/or start a new wellbeing habit and connect with other people in the community.
Where:Seedling Therapies Collective
Upstairs from TJ's Barber Shop
124 Main Street
Upper Hutt
Time: Thursday 7pm - 8.30pm
Cost: $90 for the 6 weeks
$70 if you are a school teacher, educator (like earlychild care, in home, correspondence school, nurse or social worker.
Book your spot: seedlingtherapiescollective.com...
Working condition. Needs servicing as the engine is "revving".
Otherwise good condition. Switched to an electric mower, so this one e no longer version needed
Excellent Condition
A desk suitable for a computer or as a study desk.
A nice petite size and does not look bulky.
On four wheels making it great for moving around without having to lift.
Happy to take reasonable offers.
Measurements:… View moreExcellent Condition
A desk suitable for a computer or as a study desk.
A nice petite size and does not look bulky.
On four wheels making it great for moving around without having to lift.
Happy to take reasonable offers.
Measurements:
Height 85cm
Width 85cm
Depth 61cm
Do you have the 'awesomest' neighbour in town? We want to hear all about them.
It could be a neighbour who donates time to a sports team in your neighbourhood or someone who brings your bins up the driveway every week. Maybe they’re just really unique; the neighbour who drives that … View moreDo you have the 'awesomest' neighbour in town? We want to hear all about them.
It could be a neighbour who donates time to a sports team in your neighbourhood or someone who brings your bins up the driveway every week. Maybe they’re just really unique; the neighbour who drives that bright pink car or skateboards with the kids to school each day.
Tell us why your neighbour is awesome and you could win one of four $250 Prezzy® cards (plus one for your Awesome Neighbour).
That's right, at your local New World, you could win a $1000 Gift Card. Every $40 you spend when you scan your Clubcard gives you another entry to unwrap an even merrier Christmas. T&Cs apply.
Lovely family come over from Chile ,brought their 7 yrs old Border Collie looking dog , which they've had since a puppy. Went missing on 11/11 in Paraparaumu! Please follow on FB 'Come Home Rock '. Doing flyer drops in the area. Distinctive dog, hard to miss. Someone must know … View moreLovely family come over from Chile ,brought their 7 yrs old Border Collie looking dog , which they've had since a puppy. Went missing on 11/11 in Paraparaumu! Please follow on FB 'Come Home Rock '. Doing flyer drops in the area. Distinctive dog, hard to miss. Someone must know something!
Railway workers will be on strike for 24 hours from 2am on Thursday. Passengers are advised to make alternative arrangements or consider not travelling at all.
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If you see Leo can you please call me on 021 499 681. He has recently been involved in a car accident so has trouble walking, and half of his body is shaved after a number of operations.
The key to a successful painting project, is to do the prep well. And to help you get your prep done right first time, Resene has a free cleaners offer for you....
Buy 10L or more of any Resene 10L premium paint, primer or sealer at your local Resene owned ColorShop and we’ll give you your … View moreThe key to a successful painting project, is to do the prep well. And to help you get your prep done right first time, Resene has a free cleaners offer for you....
Buy 10L or more of any Resene 10L premium paint, primer or sealer at your local Resene owned ColorShop and we’ll give you your choice of 4L Resene Moss & Mould Killer, Resene Paint Prep and Housewash, Resene Deep Clean, Resene Roof and Metal Wash, or Resene Timber and Deck Wash $29.90 FREE! Just show this message at your local Resene ColorShop.
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Offer valid until 30 November 2017 or while stocks last. Limit 1 free item per household.
katmandu Tramping boots worn about 3-4 times if that. In excellent conditions (son has grown out of them)
Today the Minister of Education announced the names of 12 young people aged 14-18 years, from across New Zealand to be part of his #YouthAdvisoryGroup for 2018. It's a really fantastic opportunity for them to have their say about decisions that affect them and other young New … View moreToday the Minister of Education announced the names of 12 young people aged 14-18 years, from across New Zealand to be part of his #YouthAdvisoryGroup for 2018. It's a really fantastic opportunity for them to have their say about decisions that affect them and other young New Zealanders.
Did someone from your neighbourhood get in? Check out the link to find out. Thanks to everyone who applied and remember, you can still register for the #OnlineYouthForum and have your say #MyEducationMyVoice
The 4 Agreements of Love
Before you start your end-of-the-day discussion, I’d recommend making some agreements. Agreements are what I use with my clients to bring their unspoken expectations into view.
Agreement #1: Agree on Timing
Some individuals want to connect the moment they walk into… View moreThe 4 Agreements of Love
Before you start your end-of-the-day discussion, I’d recommend making some agreements. Agreements are what I use with my clients to bring their unspoken expectations into view.
Agreement #1: Agree on Timing
Some individuals want to connect the moment they walk into the door. Others need to decompress on their own before they’re ready to interact. When this expectation goes unspoken it can create tension and leave both partners feeling missed by each other. Agree on a time that will meet both of your needs. This can be at 7 pm every night or it can be 10 minutes after both of you get home.
Agreement #2: Dedicate Your Presence for 20-30 Minutes
Some couples struggle because they don’t spend enough time in the presence of each other to allow love to be cultivated. Take time to truly connect during this conversation.
Agreement #3: Don’t Discuss Your Marriage
This talk gives you and your partner the space to discuss about whatever is on your mind outside your marriage. It is not the time to bring up conflicts between you. Instead, it’s a chance to truly support each other in other areas of your life.
This conversation is a form of active listening in which you respond to each other’s venting with empathy and without judgement. Since the issues have nothing to do with the marriage, it’s much easier to express support and understanding of your partner’s worries and stresses.
Agreement #4: All Emotions are Welcome
This conversation is an opportunity to unload about irritants or issues, both big and small. If your partner shares sadness, fear, or anger and it feels uncomfortable, it may be time to explore why. Often this discomfort is rooted in childhood restrictions against expressing negative emotions. If this is the case, check out “Coping with Your Partner’s Sadness, Fear, and Anger” on page 103 in The Seven Principles That Make Marriage Work.
Allow this space to be a place of celebration too. If you have a victory at work or as a parent, mention that. Beyond sharing frustrations, a relationship is about sharing and relishing in the victories of life together. That’s what makes it meaningful.
7 Steps to an Effective End-of-Day Conversation
Below are detailed instructions for using active listening during the stress-reducing and intimacy building conversation.
1. Take turns. Let each partner be the complainer for fifteen minutes.
2. Show Compassion. It’s very easy to let your mind wander, but losing yourself will make your partner feel like you’ve lost touch with them. Stay focused on them. Ask questions to understand. Make eye contact.
3. Don’t provide unsolicited solutions. It’s natural to want to fix problems or make our lover feel better when they express pain. Often partners just want an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. Unless your partner has asked for help, don’t try to fix the problem, change how they feel, or rescue them. Just be present with them.
Men get caught up in this trap more frequently than women, but it is not the man’s responsibility to rescue his partner. Often trying to “save her” backfires. In the Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman noticed that when a wife shares her troubles, she reacts negatively to her husband offering advice right away. What she wants is to be heard and understood.
It’s not that problem-solving doesn’t have it’s place. It is important, but as psychologist Haim Ginott says, “Understanding must precede advice.” It’s only when your partner feels fully understood that they will be receptive to suggestions.
4. Express your understanding and validate emotions. Let your spouse know that you understand what they are saying. Here’s a list of phrases I have my clients use.
“Hearing that makes perfect sense why you’re upset.”
“That sounds terrible.”
“I totally agree with how you see it.”
“I’d be stressed too.”
“That would have hurt my feelings too.”
5. Take your partner’s side. Express support of your partner’s view even if you feel their perspective is unreasonable. If you back the opposition, your spouse will be resentful. When your partner reaches out for emotional support (rather than advice), your role is not to cast judgement or to tell them what to do. It’s your job to express empathy.
6. Adopt a “We against others” attitude. If your partner is feeling alone while facing difficulty, express that you are there with them and you two are in this together.
7. Be Affectionate. Touch is one of the most expressive ways we can love our partners. As your partner talks, hold them or put an arm on their shoulder. Hold that space for them and love them through thick and thin.
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White Ribbon Family Fun Day. Sunday 26th November gates open at 12:30pm at Harcourt Park, Upper Hutt. Great music to get you groove on, free fun for the kids and free food.
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