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A number of local churches are hosting free, family-friendly alternatives for Halloween tomorrow.
Thanks for everyone involved in the Local fireworks tonight. My 3 year old enjoyed the adventure of staying up and seeing the show. He fell asleep 2 mins afterwards!
Need a babysitter or nanny, i am wonderful with children and would love to help you out.
My name is Deanna and i am a qualified early childhood teacher with a current first aid certificate, I work in a kindergarten in Lower Hutt but am looking for some extra money to go towards my wedding next … View moreNeed a babysitter or nanny, i am wonderful with children and would love to help you out.
My name is Deanna and i am a qualified early childhood teacher with a current first aid certificate, I work in a kindergarten in Lower Hutt but am looking for some extra money to go towards my wedding next year.
My rate is $20 per hour or $15 if the children are in bed.
Please contact me on 0274981972
We wish everyone a safe Halloween but we need to remember that not everyone wants to be part of Halloween celebrations.
For some older people Halloween can be a frightening and scary time so here are some helpful tips so everyone can enjoy themselves and come away with fond memories:
- Make … View moreWe wish everyone a safe Halloween but we need to remember that not everyone wants to be part of Halloween celebrations.
For some older people Halloween can be a frightening and scary time so here are some helpful tips so everyone can enjoy themselves and come away with fond memories:
- Make it a family affair and go trick or treating with your kids or a group from your neighbourhood.
- Call your neighbours in advance to make sure it’s okay to call in to trick-or-treat
- If you don’t want trick-or-treaters calling print or make a sign for your letterbox or window saying no thanks. (New Zealand Police have had downloadable signs)
- If you are a trick-or-treater, respect the people who have a sign asking for you to stay away
- Keep your lights on and guests outside
- Keep your eye out for your older family members, friends and neighbours this Halloween and make sure we all get to enjoy the celebration.
Remember you can help make this a great celebration for your family and community and a great opportunity to connect with your older neighbours.
If you want to go one step further Age Concern New Zealand would like to encourage all Kiwis to sign up to their Dignity Champion Campaign to show a commitment to breaking down ageism and stereotypes and encouraging dignity and respect for older people.
Become an Age Concern Dignity Champion www.ageconcern.org.nz... this Halloween and involve and celebrate the older people in your lives.
In my work with couples, I’ve noticed that most people have an easy time describing what they don’t want in their relationship:
If someone prompts them, they’re able to rapidly fire off the many issues that they feel are creating distance between their partner and themselves.
Yet if I … View moreIn my work with couples, I’ve noticed that most people have an easy time describing what they don’t want in their relationship:
If someone prompts them, they’re able to rapidly fire off the many issues that they feel are creating distance between their partner and themselves.
Yet if I ask the same people what they do want in a relationship, or from their partner, it seems to catch them off guard.
The answer comes far less easily, as they pause to reflect on a question they haven’t necessarily asked themselves, at least not in a long time.
As a relationship matures, it’s easy to focus on its problems. We can catalog all the negative patterns that have arisen or all the frustrating qualities a partner has.
Thus, when we communicate with a partner, we often say what we don’t want instead of what we do. Somehow, it’s easier to complain or vocalize dissatisfaction than to directly state or ask for what we desire.
Many couples are comfortable telling each other, “You never do this," "Why are you always forgetting what I say to you?" "How can you be so insensitive?” or, “Do you ever stop thinking about yourself?” They’re not as comfortable slowing down and saying, “It makes me feel so much more relaxed when I have help with this or that," or, “I really want to feel you listen and understand.”
Unfortunately, most people automatically take a defended self-protective stance in relation to the inevitable hurts they experience with their partner. They fail to recognize that when they experience strong emotional reactions to a perceived slight by a partner that they are often reacting based on unresolved issues from their childhood. They have little awareness that this style of relating is moving them further from the outcome they want.
Rather than say what they want, they shut down or turn inward. They may feel quietly resentful toward their partner or indulge in destructive thoughts toward themselves. They may have critical inner voices telling them they are unworthy or trying to convince them that they will experience humiliation, hurt, or rejection if they go after what they want. In either of these reactions, the person is avoiding expressing, or sometimes even acknowledging, his or her basic wants and desires.
Saying what you want is a powerful tool to end a fight. It helps you avoid hurtful ways of relating to your partner that might put him or her on the defensive. It's also a way of being vulnerable that allows your partner to know and feel for you. When you speak about your wants honestly, directly, and from an adult point of view, your partner is more likely to be open, responsive, and personal in return.
Here are a few approaches that can help you get what you need in your relationship:
1. Practice unilateral disarmament.
This is a technique I often introduce to couples that is valuable to implement in heated moments when an argument is going nowhere.
If the goal is to be close to your partner, there are times when it is best to simply drop your side of the dynamic.
You can do this by first calming down within yourself, refusing to lash back, and instead saying something warm and honest like, “I care more about feeling good with you than winning this argument.” Taking these steps often softens the other person, and he or she, too, is more likely to drop his or her side of the dynamic.
You can then communicate from a more direct, vulnerable stance that isn’t about blame or being right.
You can start to cleanly express what you want and encourage your partner to do the same.
2. Stay vulnerable.
It’s hard for many people to say what they want out loud, or even admit it to themselves. When you do express your wants, it’s important to do it directly but from a vulnerable place.
Try not to speak in an entitled manner, as if you’re demanding something, or using words like “I deserve.” When someone in a relationship acts like their partner owes them something, they tend to fall into traps in which they find themselves nagging or complaining, both of which only serve to alienate or irritate a partner.
3. Don’t use victimized language.
Refusing to act victimized is an important principle in general. When you talk about what you want, steer clear of speaking in ways that sound victimized or childish.
No one can or should expect any one other person to meet all their needs. Rather, you should strive to feel like a whole person in yourself. Of course, it’s natural to want to feel love and connection, but there’s an important difference between saying what you want as an adult and feeling like a dependent child whose survival depends on your partner giving you what you need.
4. Avoid “you” statements.
One way people diverge from saying what they want directly is by switching from “I” statements to “you” statements.
Many people tend to be more comfortable saying, “You don’t act excited to see me anymore," or, "You’re always distracted.” It is valid to give your partner feedback, but if all he or she hears is a stream of complaints, it is more likely to drive them away than to get them to move closer to you.
On the other hand, the exercise of saying what you want is about expressing something about who you are and what matters to you.
That’s why it is better to start with “I": “I want to feel wanted by you.” “I want your attention.” “I want to have fun with you.” “I want to feel that you listen.”
This helps you to have more feeling and understanding toward yourself, while hopefully inspiring the same reaction in your partner.
To the Greater Wellington Regional Council,
In the Upper Hutt Leader October 19 this letter to the editor raised interesting concerns.
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I googled Unilever to find that they have sold to a property investor and shut down in 2015.
However it is concerning to me … View moreTo the Greater Wellington Regional Council,
In the Upper Hutt Leader October 19 this letter to the editor raised interesting concerns.
fairfaxmedia.newspaperdirect.com...
I googled Unilever to find that they have sold to a property investor and shut down in 2015.
However it is concerning to me that GWRC had granted consent for Unilever to draw 900,000 cubic metres of water from the Waiwhetu artesian aquifer. This is the same amount as Hastings allocated for the Chinese bottling plant. Although this appears small (less than 2% of available water), I do believe that with the current low river flows it is critical to ensure that any future applications are addressed carefully.
www.stuff.co.nz...
Last summer Wellingtons water became critically low and the public responded well to the councils call to conserve water. We the ratepayers reduced our usage from over 160 million litres to 120 - 130 million litres per day. This shows that the public do care.
I want to suggest that Upper Hutts year round water restrictions are extended to Lower Hutt, Porirua and Wellington. This would help to create mindful use of water all of the time, not just during drought.
As a child in the 1970's I would drink from Te Awakairangi Hutt river near the Silverstream bridge. Now only 40 years on I am committed to finding ways to restore the health of the river, year round water restrictions would be a step in the right direction.
As aquifers around the world decline in quality, the big multinational companies will be looking for new sources of clean water.
"One Pure is still in the process of setting up its bottling plant, where it has permission to extract 405,000 cubic metres of water a year while NZ Miracle Water has consent to take 900,000cm3 from the middle of this year. However its first shipment of its HBay-branded water to China was returned for failing to meet purity standards".
www.hawkesbay.co.nz...
I would like to see a moratorium placed on the granting of any bottling plants in the Greater Wellington region.
I am currently looking for ways to protect Wellingtons water network.
In 2014 Te Urewera north of Hastings was granted "legal personhood", the river and the land now have the same rights as a person and is protected by government and local Iwi representatives. "I am the river and the river is me" is the Maori foundation that protects Te Urewera.
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The Whanganui River is also in the process of being granted personhood. I am currently looking at how we could gain the same status for Te Awakairangi and all of her connected feeder rivers and streams. Te Urewera and Whanganui gained their status as part of Treaty settlements - so that they can't be owned by anyone, they belong to themselves just as we do. I am making contact with Iwi to find out if we can grant the same status outside of a Treaty settlement, like a public moratorium backed by government and Iwi.
An explanation of the Whanganui river personhood:
www.nzherald.co.nz...
For the past two years I have been involved with the Wellington TPP Action group. Our purpose is to stop TPPA because of the harm it can do to our environment.
I have taken a close look at how TPPA affects our rights to regulate public assets.
The trade and retail of water comes under TPPA rules, in Annex 2 it states "New Zealand reserves the right to adopt or maintain any measure with respect to water, including the allocation, collection, treatment and distribution of drinking water. This reservation does not apply to the wholesale trade and retail of bottled mineral, aerated and natural water".
Under TPPA if the council makes water restrictions during a drought, the communities conserve water while foreign bottling companies continue to bottle water to sell - or if council enforces restrictions then the bottling plant can sue the council for their loss of profits.
Even if TPPA doesn't become law, there are other trade agreements in the pipelines which can do harm. It would be diligent to put protective policy in place for future proofing public assets.
My focus is on protection of water - before any applications are made, policy should be in place.
I have presented my concerns at UHCC and as a result they have adopted 12 resolutions - asking government to address the issues before signing the TPPA. See the 12 resolutions here:
www.actionstation.org.nz...
In 2013 amalgamation threatened local council authority, now we have the local government amendment bill 2 which aims to remove public assets from council control. Nick Smith has suggested removing council rights to vote on issues such as GMO potatoes and 1080 poison regulation (such as keeping drop zones well out of the water catchment areas).
In 2012, 95% of the Westport community signed a petition asking Government/DOC to keep 1080 out of their water catchment areas. This was backed by a council resolution. The 1080 drop went ahead ignoring the council and public petition and dropped 1080 in the water catchment areas. Disgraceful!
The governments "wading or boating" standard for rivers and lakes is not good enough, it allows any corporations operating here to make a huge mess without breaking any rules.
My requests to Greater Wellington Regional Council:
1. Extend Upper Hutts year round water restrictions to include Porirua, Wellington, Lower Hutt. Require that all new builds include rainwater harvesting tanks.
2. Place a moratorium (or a solid ban) on the granting of water consents for water bottling plants (quickly before any companies apply).
3. Provide assistance and support for any public calls for greater protection of the river. I will continue to explore the concept of "Personhood" for our water network.
4. Adopt the 12 TPPA resolutions and encourage other local bodies to do the same, this is all about gaining momentum against bad policy. We cannot protect our water quality and regulation under a bad trade agreement.
5. Publicly oppose amalgamation and the Local government amendment bill 2 and show support for the local councils. The public want to keep public assets in local council control - if this is removed then so too is public accountability.
6. Support the local councils right to regulate toxic poisons, such as 1080. The public have a right to say what goes in their water supply, I ask that democracy is supported by GWRC.
Thank you for your time in considering my concerns.
Tracey Ultra
Hi Everyone. We are having a garage sale Saturday morning. 2/41 Peck street. 7am start.
Main items are: Selling lawn mower (top working class, with catcher), weed eater (straight shaft, older style. just spent $150 on it, top working order) New wood pallets. Corrugated iron. Camping gear. Gardening… View moreHi Everyone. We are having a garage sale Saturday morning. 2/41 Peck street. 7am start.
Main items are: Selling lawn mower (top working class, with catcher), weed eater (straight shaft, older style. just spent $150 on it, top working order) New wood pallets. Corrugated iron. Camping gear. Gardening gear and much more. Looking forward to seeing you here :) Come and have a look around - you might find something you need such as curtains. Stuff will be on display in garage and the entrance for this is on Farmer Cres. We are the last house in Peck St - corner of Peck St & Farmer Cres - opposite Pomare Station.
Will do sales before Saturday. 04 567 4772 Thanks
It's not too late to nominate a business in your community for a Vodafone Local Business Award! Nominate one today to given them (and yourself!) a chance to win great prizes.
Whether it's your favourite builder or baker, café or cleaner, barista or barrister - if they're local, … View moreIt's not too late to nominate a business in your community for a Vodafone Local Business Award! Nominate one today to given them (and yourself!) a chance to win great prizes.
Whether it's your favourite builder or baker, café or cleaner, barista or barrister - if they're local, we want to hear about them. We're proud to be recognising and celebrating outstanding Kiwi businesses in every corner of New Zealand.
Nominate your favourite business now and you’re in the draw to win one of two $100 Prezzy® cards!
Painter/Plasterer seeking work, over 30 years experience, very professional, domestic/residential/commercial. Available now. Please call George Love 027 368 5714 anytime for your free quote.
Make a plan with your family that includes what you’ll do if you can’t get home, who can help you and who in your neighbourhood might need your help. www.happens.nz...
Hi Neighbours, i'm on the hunt for a 2nd hand tv - no preference on size, can be either small OR big, it is for my daughters birthday as i've bought her a playstation & now need a TV to hook it up to. Does anyone have one that they're getting rid of? Can pick up :-) thanks in … View moreHi Neighbours, i'm on the hunt for a 2nd hand tv - no preference on size, can be either small OR big, it is for my daughters birthday as i've bought her a playstation & now need a TV to hook it up to. Does anyone have one that they're getting rid of? Can pick up :-) thanks in advance!
Hi everyone, a few years ago I started a women's afternoon tea group as a reason to dust off my china collection and meet some new friends here in the Valley. We meet regularly for tea and cake, movie evenings, craft and baking workshops and general chit chat. It's completely free to … View moreHi everyone, a few years ago I started a women's afternoon tea group as a reason to dust off my china collection and meet some new friends here in the Valley. We meet regularly for tea and cake, movie evenings, craft and baking workshops and general chit chat. It's completely free to become a member, check out the "High Tea Honeys" on Facebook and to join, head to www.meetup.com...
Here's an idea of what you could do with that free can of Dine cat food that just got delivered to your letter box.
If you don't have a cat, you could consider donating the can to the SPCA or Cats Protection League, or a similar animal charity. You can usually put it in the donation box … View moreHere's an idea of what you could do with that free can of Dine cat food that just got delivered to your letter box.
If you don't have a cat, you could consider donating the can to the SPCA or Cats Protection League, or a similar animal charity. You can usually put it in the donation box at your local supermarket. There is also Kitten Inn in Kelson if you live nearby and can drop it off.
I know a lot of people either throw them away or give them to their neighbours, but here's another (more worthy?) option. Just a thought :-)
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