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In celebration of our 10 year anniversary, we're holding Neighbours Day Aotearoa over 10 days (March 22-31, 2019), AND we've also come up with 10 Little Ways for individuals to celebrate, and 10 Big Ways for groups to celebrate! We think there's something to inspire just about … View moreIn celebration of our 10 year anniversary, we're holding Neighbours Day Aotearoa over 10 days (March 22-31, 2019), AND we've also come up with 10 Little Ways for individuals to celebrate, and 10 Big Ways for groups to celebrate! We think there's something to inspire just about everyone to participate in Neighbours Day Aotearoa next year - so check out how you can join in, share it with your friends, and don't forget to register your events!
Let us know how you’re celebrating Neighbours Day Aotearoa in 2019 and you could be in to win. Registering an event, no matter how small, puts you in the draw to win a $100 prezzy card or limited edition Neighbours Day Aotearoa t-shirt, plus it helps us know how many neighbours are connecting.
If love were enough, all couples would be happy. The simple truth is relationships take work.
Most of us are willing to spend hours perfecting a skill or talent, yet we expect ourselves to be Masters of Relationships with little effort.
One of the first things I ask my clients is whether or not … View moreIf love were enough, all couples would be happy. The simple truth is relationships take work.
Most of us are willing to spend hours perfecting a skill or talent, yet we expect ourselves to be Masters of Relationships with little effort.
One of the first things I ask my clients is whether or not they’re willing to do the work to improve their relationship with their partner. Almost anything is possible when both people are committed to change.
My favorite tool in the Gottman toolkit is a simple exercise that rekindles the romance and connection necessary to get a marriage back on track.
This exercise worked wonders for Sandra and David. When they first came to see me, their number one complaint was feeling like “they didn’t know each other anymore.”
After being married for ten years and having three children, their marriage had undergone some serious changes. Their lives were hectic. David worked long hours and Sandra, who stayed at home with the children, was exhausted at the end of the day. There was little time or energy left for their marriage. Over the years they grew apart.
They felt like strangers, not lovers.
Love Maps: a path to connection
In our first session I explained Dr. Gottman’s concept of building “Love Maps.” Simply put, a Love Map is the map we create in our own head of our partner’s inner world – their dreams, hopes, fears, likes, dislikes, and everything else we can gather.
If you’ve ever used Google Maps, you know that having a GPS system is really helpful when navigating a city. In the same vein, we also know that cities are constantly under construction. Try returning to your hometown 10 years later and you’ll discover that the roads have changed and your favorite corner store or restaurant is gone.
Just like a good GPS system must be constantly updated to work properly, we must also update our Love Maps of our partner if we want to continue to feel connected throughout the course of our relationship. In fact, Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that couples with detailed Love Maps have stronger relationships.
Build a Love Map of your partner
To enhance your Love Maps, first make a list of some facts you know about your partner. I don’t mean age, height, or weight, but the meatier stuff: their hopes, dreams, likes, and dislikes.
These could be facts such as:
I know the name my partner’s best friends.
I know what stresses my partner is currently facing.
I know my partner’s basic philosophy on life.
Take the Love Map Questionnaire to get an idea of how well you know your partner’s inner world.
From that list, create a list of questions you don’t know about your partner. Ask your partner to do the same.
When you’re both finished, talk about your Love Maps.
How up-to-date are they?
What’s changed?
Are there any surprises?
Be sure to ask and answer the questions on both your lists. Remember: no judgment. The purpose of this exercise is to reestablish a connection, not to blame your partner for what he/she doesn’t know.
In my work with Sandra and David, building Love Maps helped them learn new information about each other that brought them closer together. Once reconnected, they were able to more easily understand each other. When they both felt heard, understood and loved, their issues no longer seemed so difficult to deal with and were soon resolved.
If building a Love Map seems like taking the long way toward resolving your relationship issues, consider this: when we’re stuck in traffic and the most direct route isn’t working, taking the back roads is usually faster, more scenic, and ultimately gets us where we want to go.
With a little work and a willingness to learn a new skill, Sandra and David put their relationship back on track. You can do it, too.
So, if you’re looking to put your relationship back on track.. Call me on 0212689842 for a free consultation
Do you treat your pets at Christmas? Do you have a neighbour to keep an eye on your property while you're away? What do you find stressful at this time of the year? Take part in the Great New Zealand Christmas Survey!
It will only take a couple of minutes to complete - and you'll be … View moreDo you treat your pets at Christmas? Do you have a neighbour to keep an eye on your property while you're away? What do you find stressful at this time of the year? Take part in the Great New Zealand Christmas Survey!
It will only take a couple of minutes to complete - and you'll be in the draw to win one of two $100 Prezzy® cards!
Marcel's Petite Pancakes are the perfect entertainer's food, these versatile nibbles make minimal mess, saving you time so you can enjoy the party.
To celebrate those long Summer nights and get togethers with friends, we are sampling our Petite Pancakes this week at your local New … View moreMarcel's Petite Pancakes are the perfect entertainer's food, these versatile nibbles make minimal mess, saving you time so you can enjoy the party.
To celebrate those long Summer nights and get togethers with friends, we are sampling our Petite Pancakes this week at your local New World store. Click here to find out more and go in the draw to win a summer party hamper.
Come visit us at your local New World:
Thursday 15th Nov.
- New World Churton Park 3pm-6pm
- New World Khandallah 3pm-6pm
- New World Miramar 11am-2pm
- New World Island Bay 3pm-6pm
Friday 16th Nov.
- New World Thorndon 11am-2pm
- New World Railway Metro 3pm-6pm
- New World Wellington City 11am-2pm
- Kilbirnie Pakn'Save 11am-2pm
Sunday 18th Nov.
- New World Hutt City 11am-2pm
The Petone Amateur Swimming Club starts up again this Thursday, 15th of November at 6pm.
We still have a few spaces in the Intermediate and Senior squad swimming groups, so register now to get a spot (Learn To Swim classes are fully booked). Contact Us if you are unsure of your child's … View moreThe Petone Amateur Swimming Club starts up again this Thursday, 15th of November at 6pm.
We still have a few spaces in the Intermediate and Senior squad swimming groups, so register now to get a spot (Learn To Swim classes are fully booked). Contact Us if you are unsure of your child's ability www.petoneswimming.co.nz...
We are one the most cost effective swimming clubs in the valley; $40 for an individual, $100 for the whole family.
There are two lanes dedicated to adult fitness. Adults can also participate in sea swim practices and the annual Matiu/Somes Island to Petone swim in February. You will have no excuses for just sitting at the pool side watching the kids!
For more information head to our website www.petoneswimming.co.nz....
Come and watch our favorite local and internationally famous watercolour artist, Jacky Pearson, paint the view looking out from the front of our art gallery. This Sunday afternoon between 1.30 and 4pm and at the same time meet the amazing Rachel Walker . In between watching the painting stages… View moreCome and watch our favorite local and internationally famous watercolour artist, Jacky Pearson, paint the view looking out from the front of our art gallery. This Sunday afternoon between 1.30 and 4pm and at the same time meet the amazing Rachel Walker . In between watching the painting stages and talking to the artists, you can be inspired by their magical shared solo exhibition.
From 11 November we’re making timetable changes based on the things we’ve learned since the new network went live in July.
They’re designed to help your bus arrive on time, improve connection times and provide services at later times in the evening to help you get where you need to go, … View moreFrom 11 November we’re making timetable changes based on the things we’ve learned since the new network went live in July.
They’re designed to help your bus arrive on time, improve connection times and provide services at later times in the evening to help you get where you need to go, when you need to go.
Before you travel, be sure to check whether your timetable has changed at metlink.org.nz or call 0800 801 700.
Hi All! My name is Rhiannon Laurence, I am 21 years old and I would love to walk your dog or look after your kitties while you are away. I have lots of experience with all animals as I have worked at The Tasman St Vet Centre for the last 3 years. Please contact me via email (… View moreHi All! My name is Rhiannon Laurence, I am 21 years old and I would love to walk your dog or look after your kitties while you are away. I have lots of experience with all animals as I have worked at The Tasman St Vet Centre for the last 3 years. Please contact me via email (rhiannonlaurence@outlook.com) with any enquiries and we can negotiate dates and prices :)
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