The Circle of Courage
Last night’s speaker was educator Lloyd Martin of Titahi Bay, who has spent many years helping disaffected students in Porirua.
In an interactive presentation, Lloyd had us contemplating events from our own childhoods, and their long-term effects.
He introduced us to the idea of responding to needs, rather than reacting to problems.
A modern tool for engaging with young people is the Circle of Courage, which crystalises their needs under four headings: Belonging, Mastery, Independence and Generosity. If one (or more) of these needs is not met, there will be problems.
The young need to feel a sense of belonging to a group, hopefully one which acts in a positive way. The group could be family, a club or sports team.
Mastery of a skill is a positive process which helps grow self-esteem. The young are hard-wired to learn from their elders and react well to being told they are good at something.
Independence might seem to be in tension with belonging, but young people need the opportunity to make decisions and take responsibility. Lloyd regretted the modern tendency to de-risk and overprotect the young.
Generosity, regard for the needs of others, is a more difficult concept but is a predictor of resilience- the ability to meet the problems and tragedies which life invariably brings.
Lloyd’s presentation, with its examples and insights, struck a strong chord with our members and led to lively questioning and an enthusiastic vote of thanks.
Poll: Do you think banning gang patches is reasonable?
With the government cracking down on gangs, it is now illegal for gang members to display their insignia in public places whether through clothing or their property.
This means arrests can be made if these patches are worn in places like restaurants, shops, on public transport or ferries, and on airplanes. Arrests were made recently at a funeral.
Do you think this ban is reasonable?
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0% Yes
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0% No
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0% Other - I'll share below
Poll: Should all neighbours have to contribute to improvements?
An Auckland court has ruled a woman doesn’t have to contribute towards the cost of fixing a driveway she shares with 10 neighbours.
When thinking about fences, driveways or tree felling, for example, do you think all neighbours should have to pay if the improvements directly benefit them?
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82.1% Yes
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15.1% No
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2.7% Other - I'll share below
New World Khandallah parking warning and appeal to nearby business owners
For very valid reasons (local commuters abuse) the New World has allowed the draconian Smartcomply company to police their carpark on their behalf.
Smartcomply will hit you with an $85 'fine' if you stay one second beyond the 60 minutes allowed.
Can I appeal to all nearby business's (especially eateries) to display a clearly visible "ARE YOU PARKED IN THE NEW WORD CARPARK' notice so customers can be warned about the possibility of an unpleasant post dining experience surprise.
A local eatery, and New World itself, could lose future custom due Smartcomply's excessive actions, as is likely our case.
Indeed I would urge any business local to a Smartcomply operation to implement a "ARE YOU PARKED IN ..........." notice if they wanted to avoid a lose in trade.
Here is the link to their Terms and Conditions that all entrants to a carpark under their control are expected to notice and read.
smartcomply.co.nz...
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