The 1 to 9 Couples Sex Scale
A lot of couples are uncomfortable talking about how to initiate and refuse sex.
It's also difficult to cope with being turned down.
The key to making “yes” and “no” feel less loaded is to have an agreed-upon ritual in your relationship for navigating sex.
Noted sex therapist Lonnie Barbach suggests that couples use a scale from 1 to 9 to indicate how amorous each of them is feeling, with 1 meaning “Not at all,” 5 meaning “I’m convince-able,” and 9 meaning “Let’s do it!”
So, if your partner initiates and you’re not in the mood, you can say, “I love you, and right now I’m a 1.” If you’re not sure, you could say, “Right now I’m a 5. Let’s kiss and see where it goes.”
The more you can hear, understand, and respect your partner’s “no” about any marital issue, the more “yes” there will be in your relationship.
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Poll: Should the government levy industries that contribute to financial hardship?
As reported in the Post, there’s a $30 million funding gap in financial mentoring. This has led to services closing and mentors stepping in unpaid just to keep helping people in need 🪙💰🪙
One proposed solution? Small levies on industries that profit from financial hardship — like banks, casinos, and similar companies.
So we want to hear what you think:
Should the government ask these industries to contribute?
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60% Yes, supporting people is important!
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25.7% No, individuals should take responsibility
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14.3% ... It is complicated
Documenting the RiverLink Project around Melling, Pharazyn St and Marsden St
Kia Ora, Neighbours. For the last couple of years I've been documenting with my camera the changes in my area around the extensive work going on with the RiverLink project (Melling Interchange/New Melling Bridge/New Melling Railway Station/ Melling Station walk bridge / Clearance of Pharazyn St and Marsden St and Stop bank work).
I pass no judgements on the work. My photos simply record what's happening.
Early blog posts are photo essays of the the demolition of Pharazyn St and Marsden St residential and industrial properties. Later photos are the more up to date records happening right now.
I'd welcome your feedback, especially with better information about what's happening, as there seems to be a number of sites specialising in their own work but not a comprehensive coordinated site with details and links.
Here's the link. Enjoy. www.riverlinkphotos.blogspot.com...
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