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Show for all the family with musical numbers and comedy sketches. Features a cast of over 70 most of who are aged 10 to 20. All are members of scouts or guides. Tickets from hvgs.org.nz... Adults $24 and children $16
...because the ones outside the old briscoes in Jackson Street are being cut down as I write this....
Hi Neighbours,
Check out our latest website blog - "How to test your windows for draughts in 1 simple step" :)
Fixing your draughty windows & doors can make a big difference in both your home comfort level and your heating bills.Often the solution is as simple as replacing hinges … View moreHi Neighbours,
Check out our latest website blog - "How to test your windows for draughts in 1 simple step" :)
Fixing your draughty windows & doors can make a big difference in both your home comfort level and your heating bills.Often the solution is as simple as replacing hinges and rubber seals.
Exceed are your local window and door specialists. We’ve been helping New Zealanders create better, safer, smarter homes for more than 28 years.
From the Exceed Hutt Valley Team
www.exceed.co.nz...
Drop Everything! Water needs you! The process of setting up Hutt Valley-Wellington Whaitua Committee is starting. The committee will explore and recommend solutions to improve water quality in our rivers, streams and in the Wellington harbour. We are looking for people who know the area and care … View moreDrop Everything! Water needs you! The process of setting up Hutt Valley-Wellington Whaitua Committee is starting. The committee will explore and recommend solutions to improve water quality in our rivers, streams and in the Wellington harbour. We are looking for people who know the area and care about our fresh water and harbour.
For updates and more information on how to get involved, click: www.gw.govt.nz...
email us at whaitua@gw.govt.nz
Hi neighbours, we're having the biggest brand launch sale with 20% - 70% off storewide everyday from 9am, 17th - 26th August 2018!
We're also holding a Customer Evening on Thursday 23rd August, 7pm till late. Everyone that attends will get an entry into the island holiday giveaway! On … View moreHi neighbours, we're having the biggest brand launch sale with 20% - 70% off storewide everyday from 9am, 17th - 26th August 2018!
We're also holding a Customer Evening on Thursday 23rd August, 7pm till late. Everyone that attends will get an entry into the island holiday giveaway! On the night we will have some of the best local food and beverages available for you to try. Please RSVP by the 21st August 2018 to info@paulas.co.nz or phone on 04 298 5990.
Every purchase in store during the sale period goes in the draw to win a $5,000 Flight Centre Gift Card for a holiday of your choice.
Dress in black and gold to our Customer Evening and the best dressed will receive a special prize!
Haven Falls offer quality care and professional service Wellington wide - 24hrs with Funeral packages from $3990 +gst.
No deposit - 30 day invoice.
42-50 Burden Ave, Wainuiomata.
Phone 04 564 3792 and 0800 428365 or visit our website www.havenfalls.co.nz for more information.
Come join us at Rata Playgroup on Tuesdays from 10 to 12 for a relaxed friendly supportive environment to play with your your children at Wesley Village Rec Centre, 249 Rata St. For more info contact Kiri on
027 4354820
100's of items (see Pic). Look forward to seeing you there. Please note: no credit card facilities, but there is an eftpos machine in the main foyer
Whether you're looking for job experience, learning new skills or just want to give a little back to the community; we will have the role for you! Give us a call on 04 566 6786 on Monday, Wednesday or Friday.
REF 2491 - This retail role is based in Upper Hutt in new premises. They are … View moreWhether you're looking for job experience, learning new skills or just want to give a little back to the community; we will have the role for you! Give us a call on 04 566 6786 on Monday, Wednesday or Friday.
REF 2491 - This retail role is based in Upper Hutt in new premises. They are looking for someone bright and friendly to join the team of this charitable organisation. Support needed to organise stock in the sorting area and work on shop floor and counter.
REF 5744 - This society in Lower Hutt which promotes an interest in plants and gardening needs someone who can take on general secretarial duties: communicate with members on a regular basis (usually every 2 months) and help with preparation of shows three times a year.
Got any great ways we can all help the environment? Any green tips, tricks or habits that others might not know about? Share them on our page, and you could win one of 10 Countdown gift cards, worth $100 each! It’s all part of our commitment to helping our environment thrive.
All attendees this week go in the draw to win two free one on one sessions of your choice! Boxing, weight training, weight - loss, cardio, it's your call - you could even choose "train the trainer" for those who want to get their own back!
New classes:
Ladies Bootcamp – 6am … View moreAll attendees this week go in the draw to win two free one on one sessions of your choice! Boxing, weight training, weight - loss, cardio, it's your call - you could even choose "train the trainer" for those who want to get their own back!
New classes:
Ladies Bootcamp – 6am Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Friday
Fit Mums – 9.15am Wednesday
Lunchtime Calorie blast (30min – Open to men/woman) – Thursday 12.15
Box-Fit class (Open to men/woman) – Thursday 5.15pm and Sunday 12.15pm
All classes are $10 per session. Classes held at The Waiwhetu Fitness Centre and Naenae community hall.
Hi neighbours,
Both coffee and controversy is brewing in wider Wellington region at the moment on the topic of prams in cafes.
A cafe in Petone doesn't allow buggies and prams in the cafe when two designated areas up front by the window are full. This is due to space and safety reasons. … View moreHi neighbours,
Both coffee and controversy is brewing in wider Wellington region at the moment on the topic of prams in cafes.
A cafe in Petone doesn't allow buggies and prams in the cafe when two designated areas up front by the window are full. This is due to space and safety reasons. However, some mums have hit out saying it isn't "child friendly". Other cafes have now chimed into the debate. We want to know your thoughts on the topic.
Are you a mum with a pram that's been turned away from a cafe? Or perhaps you're a business owner that struggles to fit prams on the premise. Perhaps you're a customer with an opinion to share. Let us know your thoughts in the replies! (Please add "NFP/not for print" if you do not want your images/comments used on Stuff)
We are wanting to get a quote sorted for levelling the back part of our house. Must be a registered builder etc... Any suggestions?
Wellington Water will be repairing water pipes on the Esplanade on Saturday 11 August, between approximately 7am and midday.
The work will be in the Oriental Street area and will affect Esplanade traffic travelling in the eastbound lane only.
A detour will be in place for eastbound traffic, … View moreWellington Water will be repairing water pipes on the Esplanade on Saturday 11 August, between approximately 7am and midday.
The work will be in the Oriental Street area and will affect Esplanade traffic travelling in the eastbound lane only.
A detour will be in place for eastbound traffic, turning into Cuba Street, then into Jackson Street and heading south back to The Esplanade via Jessie Street.
Council advises significant delays are likely and recommends drivers use alternative routes where possible.
The world of dating can feel daunting and difficult for many. You are not alone if you are out in the dating world and are experiencing doubt, frustration, or disappointment at not finding the right partner for you. Or, perhaps you are single and have not taken the leap back into the dating world.
… View moreThe world of dating can feel daunting and difficult for many. You are not alone if you are out in the dating world and are experiencing doubt, frustration, or disappointment at not finding the right partner for you. Or, perhaps you are single and have not taken the leap back into the dating world.
In collaboration with The Gottman Institute, I have created a new workshop called The Seven Principles for Singles, which is focused on helping single people gain the knowledge and skills they need to succeed in healthy relationships. The workshop is based on concepts presented in Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, but we apply those same principles to the realm of searching for a partner, dating, and forming a new relationship built on mutual trust, understanding, and support.
The information and research in this article are focused on the dating portion of the workshop, and I hope that, by the time you finish reading this, you will feel a bit more equipped and perhaps even motivated to give dating another shot.
How do people meet?
A study from University of Chicago psychologist John Cacioppo that tracked how couples met and their marital outcomes between 2005 through 2012 found that 34.95% met online, 14% met at work, and 12% met through friends. While dating sites and apps are popular and can lead to successful relationships, they also have their limitations.
One problem with matching sites where you can browse at will is having too many options. For example, Columbia professor Sheena Iyengar conducted experiments that revealed an excess of options can induce indecision and paralysis in decision making. Her experiment involved jam samples at a grocery store. When they offered 6 types of jam as opposed to 24 types, people were 10 times as likely to actually buy jam with the smaller sample number.
One other issue is that when you are scrolling and swiping through dating profiles and comparing people side by side, you can get into “joint evaluation” mode as opposed to “separate evaluation” mode, which allows you to evaluate something on its own. Joint evaluation mode tends to make people treat the potential partners they are viewing as products to be compared and consumed rather than people to get to know and date.
People do still meet in traditional ways: at work, through friends, in your neighborhood, or at church or a special interest group. But no matter how you meet your potential mate, dating is a necessary piece.
Do those dating sites actually work?
Social psychologist Eli Finkel spent a great deal of time studying if dating sites actually do what they claim, especially those that say they can predict ahead of time whether two people will be good romantic partners. In his article titled “Online Dating: A Critical Analysis From the Perspective of Psychological Science,” he states that “there is little reason to believe that the current compatibility algorithms are especially effective. Online dating functions best to the degree that it introduces people to potential partners that they would have been unlikely to encounter otherwise.”
Matching sites focus on either similarity, which eHarmony uses, or complementarity, which Chemistry.com and PerfectMatch.com use. Finkel proposes that what is more important than finding someone just like you, or who compliments you, is to find someone “with a personality that is conducive to relationships…someone who has relationship aptitude.”
What is relationship aptitude? It is related to emotional intelligence, and Finkel argues that it is the ability to develop and sustain intimacy and trust, and someone with high relationship aptitude has low levels of neuroticism. It is someone who has an agreeable character, and the ability to securely attach to others.
If you do meet someone online, don’t spend too much time talking virtually—a week or two at the most—then meet to see if you have similar relationship aptitude. Helen Fisher, noted anthropologist and consultant for Match.com, states that it is best to avoid long online exchanges. The only way to know if you have a future with a person is to meet face to face since “the only real algorithm for love is in the human brain.”
Going on the first date
The Gottman Institute asked their Facebook followers to submit their best first and second dates ideas. By far the most popular were walking and talking—either hiking, walking in a park, or strolling through the city. Most people felt that by walking, you take the pressure off each other to make eye contact and it feels more comfortable. People also mentioned that, for safety reasons, they preferred meeting in a public place if this was an early date and they didn’t know their date well. Other popular suggestions were mini golf, a picnic, perusing a farmers market, or going bowling.
When going on those first dates, there is a concept that is important to consider in dating, which will help you avoid the serial dating pitfall. Serial dating is when you go on many first dates, and seek out all your options rather than settling down or becoming exclusive.
University of Texas psychologists Lucy Hunt and Paul Eastwick discovered in a study that in most cases “unique value” is more important than “mate value.” Mate value is the average first impression of someone’s physical attributes and attractiveness. Unique value comes out slowly and over time through shared experiences, and by getting to know each other.
Typically, someone’s more distinctive traits take more time to know that is possible on a first date. This is why it’s important to consider getting to know someone slowly and perhaps go on a second or third date before moving on to your next first date with someone else.
If you’re nervous, ask questions
If you struggle with nerves on a first date, remember to be interested in the other person rather than trying to be interesting. One easy way to be interested in your date and to create better first date conversations is to ask open-ended questions. The Gottman Institute offers a free app called Gottman Card Decks, where you will find a whole deck of open-ended questions to ask your date, and you could memorize a few favorites before you walk out the door to a date.
You can also ask to follow up or “deepening” questions. For example, if they say they love their job, maybe ask “What is your favorite part of your job?” or “Tell me more about why you love it.” This shows that you are paying attention and are interested, which goes a long way in easing nerves for both people and helps the conversation flow.
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