What's the difference between 5:1 and 20:1 relationship?
One of my consistent messages to couples is the 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions. But this message needs some unpacking.
5:1, according to our research, is the ratio that couples must reach during a conflict. This prevents couples from being overwhelmed with negativity during an already difficult experience.
20:1, on the other hand, is the ratio you should meet every day. Twenty positive interactions for every single negative interaction!
Sounds hard, right? It isn't if you are attentive and intentional. Start scanning the horizon in your relationship for positive things to appreciate about your partner.
Then tell them. Show them. Be there for them and with them, and turn toward them again and again. That's how you hit 20:1.
What's your favourite recipe for courgettes?
Kia ora neighbours. If you've got a family recipe for courgettes, we'd love to see it and maybe publish it in our magazine. Send your recipe to mailbox@nzgardener.co.nz, and if we use it in the mag, you will receive a free copy of our January 2025 issue.
Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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84.8% Yes
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13.8% No
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1.4% Other - I'll share below
Railing planters
To gain extra growing space, make and hang these easy-to-build planters on almost any wooden fence or deck railing. Use Resene FX Blackboard Paint so you can easily identify what plants are in each. Find out how to create your own with these easy step by step instructions.
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