What's the difference between 5:1 and 20:1 relationship?
One of my consistent messages to couples is the 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative interactions. But this message needs some unpacking.
5:1, according to our research, is the ratio that couples must reach during a conflict. This prevents couples from being overwhelmed with negativity during an already difficult experience.
20:1, on the other hand, is the ratio you should meet every day. Twenty positive interactions for every single negative interaction!
Sounds hard, right? It isn't if you are attentive and intentional. Start scanning the horizon in your relationship for positive things to appreciate about your partner.
Then tell them. Show them. Be there for them and with them, and turn toward them again and again. That's how you hit 20:1.
Poll: Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?
🎁 Holiday Gift Chat!
Do you ever regift?
What’s your take on asking for a receipt if a gift doesn’t fit?
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0% Yes! It's better to regift what I don't need
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0% No. It's the thought and effort that matters
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Some Choice News!
Many New Zealand gardens aren’t seeing as many monarch butterflies fluttering around their swan plants and flower beds these days — the hungry Asian paper wasp has been taking its toll.
Thanks to people like Alan Baldick, who’s made it his mission to protect the monarch, his neighbours still get to enjoy these beautiful butterflies in their own backyards.
Thinking about planting something to invite more butterflies, bees, and birds into your garden?
Thanks for your mahi, Alan! We hope this brings a smile!
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