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I have a surplus of Kowhai Trees and some other NZ Native Trees going cheap. Contact me direct on 021 169 3523 I am in Deckston Grove. $5.00 each or offer for a few. 3 years + growth and well ready to plant in the ground.
Could a capital gains tax (not on the family home), taking GST off healthy food, or taxing activity that damages the environment make NZ an even better place to live and work? The Tax Working Group are keen to hear what matters most to you. Time is ticking to have your say.
Head over to the Tax… View moreCould a capital gains tax (not on the family home), taking GST off healthy food, or taxing activity that damages the environment make NZ an even better place to live and work? The Tax Working Group are keen to hear what matters most to you. Time is ticking to have your say.
Head over to the Tax Working Group’s website by 30 April, watch a series of five short videos explaining the issues, and let them know your thoughts in the comment section.
Don't miss out. Have your say on the future of tax by 30 April at: taxworkinggroup.govt.nz/have-your-say-future-tax
Garage sale – 102 Stokes Valley Rd – Sat, 14 April from 8.30 am
Variety of house hold goods, engineering tools and general tools, bric-a-brac. Ladies large size clothes in good condition, including a size 24-28 wedding dress with veil.
Wet or fine
Garden mulcher - Small electric garden shredder. Manuals included. 240v
Contact Mark 021 154 7195
Do you need your lawns cut?
We have a few appointments available for Sunday, we do weed eating/lawn mowing. We don’t take away clippings at this point but we make up for it by making your lawns look amazing!If you’d like a quote please PM me or comment below. Prices start from $40 depending on … View moreDo you need your lawns cut?
We have a few appointments available for Sunday, we do weed eating/lawn mowing. We don’t take away clippings at this point but we make up for it by making your lawns look amazing!If you’d like a quote please PM me or comment below. Prices start from $40 depending on the length and size of lawn.
Due to the weather forecast, we have made the decision to move the dawn service to Muritai School Hall. This means that, because of the capacity of the hall, spaces will be limited. Our priority is to accommodate the survivors, rescuers and families who have registered first and then, other members… View moreDue to the weather forecast, we have made the decision to move the dawn service to Muritai School Hall. This means that, because of the capacity of the hall, spaces will be limited. Our priority is to accommodate the survivors, rescuers and families who have registered first and then, other members of the community.
Of the 51 people who died on the day of the Wahine disaster, 49 lost their lives on the Pencarrow Coast near Eastbourne. The Hutt City Council will host a memorial service at the Wahine Mast Memorial on the coast at Eastbourne in memory of those who died. The local Eastbourne community responded to the emergency in large measure, and many people will have strong memories of the appalling conditions that day. The survivors of the Wahine wish to pay tribute to the wonderful response they received from the people of Eastbourne and the emergency services.
This public event is one in a series being held in and around Wellington on 10 April 2018 to commemorate the 50th anniversary of Wahine Day – a very significant day in New Zealand’s history. More details on www.wahine50.org.nz....
If you've been hung up on by a mystery international number, don't call back. It seems there's a spate of robo-dialling scam calls going round the country. Calling the number back can lead to extra charges on your phone bill. Have you been having any of these calls?
It’s time for you to have your say on how you are represented by Council.
Council is running a survey on a number of issues including whether to keep, change or discard the current ward system, how many councillors should represent the city and whether community boards and panels should be … View moreIt’s time for you to have your say on how you are represented by Council.
Council is running a survey on a number of issues including whether to keep, change or discard the current ward system, how many councillors should represent the city and whether community boards and panels should be retained. The survey closes on 16 April.
If you’re over 18 years of age, you can fill out the survey by hitting the link below.
We've got a question for you. Tell us truthfully what your tendencies are when it comes to using your mobile phone while driving. Don't worry we won't tell anyone; we're just trying to find out how widespread mobile usage is while driving. Voting on the poll below is completely … View moreWe've got a question for you. Tell us truthfully what your tendencies are when it comes to using your mobile phone while driving. Don't worry we won't tell anyone; we're just trying to find out how widespread mobile usage is while driving. Voting on the poll below is completely anonymous.
Sometimes it's hard to achieve our goals, especially when it comes to health and wellness. A lot of excuses can get in the way such as "I don't have time" or "it's too expensive" which are just two of the excuses I hear a lot.
But I believe it's about … View moreSometimes it's hard to achieve our goals, especially when it comes to health and wellness. A lot of excuses can get in the way such as "I don't have time" or "it's too expensive" which are just two of the excuses I hear a lot.
But I believe it's about priorities and learning to say no so that you can look after yourself.
I wrote this blog about what I think some of the important components of achieving goals are.
I hope you like it and please feel free to comment below with your top tip.
www.trilogynz.com...
Time to claim back your school donations. Have you paid a donation to a school in the last 5 years? Did you know you can claim one third of this back? We've helped over 3,000 parents just like you get back their school donation rebate, easily, quickly and online. We can get lost receipts for … View moreTime to claim back your school donations. Have you paid a donation to a school in the last 5 years? Did you know you can claim one third of this back? We've helped over 3,000 parents just like you get back their school donation rebate, easily, quickly and online. We can get lost receipts for you too!
To date we've refunded $500,000 to Kiwi parents and know that there are millions still to go.
Here is what happy parents have had to say:
"Many thanks!! The refund is now in my account!!
Thank you for making this process so easy and straightforward!!"
"Wow that's fantastic. You guys rock!! Excellent service, really wrapped with that. Thanks so much :-) will totally spread the word."
Check out our Frequently Asked Questions. We'd love to help you next.
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It’s ‘April Falls’ this month, and we’re raising awareness of preventing falls. We want to help you stay on your feet and living the life you want to live.
As we age, the risk of having a fall increases. Those over the age of 65 have a 1 in 3 chance of having a fall and those over 80 … View moreIt’s ‘April Falls’ this month, and we’re raising awareness of preventing falls. We want to help you stay on your feet and living the life you want to live.
As we age, the risk of having a fall increases. Those over the age of 65 have a 1 in 3 chance of having a fall and those over 80 it’s 1 in 2.
Having a fall can be devastating and can often result in a broken bone, which is painful and can take a long time to heal stopping us from doing the things we love.
The good news is that many falls are preventable. A new movement called Live Stronger for Longer aims to help reduce the risk of having a fall so we can live an independent and active life.
Having good strength and balance is key to staying on your feet. You can find approved community strength and balance classes in your area and practical information, advice, and resources on reducing the risk of falls.
Live Stronger for Longer and join the movement today.
Proudly brought to you by ACC, HQSC, MOH and your local community health providers.
It's been another stellar sporting year in the Hutt and we want to celebrate the successes of our athletes. The Hutt Valley Sports Awards nominations close April 13, so if you know a deserving sportsman or sportswoman, volunteer, coach, team or just someone who's given their all to … View moreIt's been another stellar sporting year in the Hutt and we want to celebrate the successes of our athletes. The Hutt Valley Sports Awards nominations close April 13, so if you know a deserving sportsman or sportswoman, volunteer, coach, team or just someone who's given their all to sports, head to the link below and best of luck!
True friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but never in heart.”
This quote rings true for couples. We all want to know the secret to making love last, but what if it was as simple as just being your partner’s friend?
Does that sound a little too easy?
According to research by Dr … View moreTrue friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but never in heart.”
This quote rings true for couples. We all want to know the secret to making love last, but what if it was as simple as just being your partner’s friend?
Does that sound a little too easy?
According to research by Dr John Gottman, long-term vitality and connection are maintained through moments of intentional friendship woven throughout the course of your relationship.
Below are five simple ways to strengthen the friendship in your marriage.
1. Make small moments of pivotal experiences.
Think about the honeymoon phase of your relationship. That time when everything about your partner seemed fascinating. Eros had taken hold of you, and everything from your partner’s hair follicles to their crazy comments to the passionate way they looked at you drew you even closer to them. You were head over heels!
Fast forward a year or two into your relationship. No doubt there are moments that still draw you to your partner, but you notice that “flame” is a little less vibrant and it seems like more of a chore to make time to be together.
This is when the intentional work of maintaining your marital friendship is most important.
Couples in long-term relationships must learn to make the seemingly small and mundane moments actually pivotal moments that show your partner you are in tune with their world.
“Are we out of olive oil? I forgot to check when I was in the kitchen earlier.” Partner shrugs and doesn’t look up from the magazine they are reading.
or…
Partner puts the magazine down and responds: “Hmm, I have no idea. But I’ll check on my way out and stop by the store on my way back from the gym later and grab one!”
The difference is that you intentionally take the time to tune in, actively listen to, and respond to your partner in a way that leaves them acknowledged and heard.
2. Express genuine interest in your partner.
Do you do fun things together during your free time? You don’t have to have the same interests as your partner, but you can absolutely enjoy time spent together by engaging in one of their (or your) interests.
Open yourself up to the opportunity of doing things you may not otherwise do on your own, for the sake of your relationship. What you will find is that, through your willingness to do so, these activities actually become enjoyable. The goal is not to force yourself to be playful, if you don’t enjoy being playful, but to look for moments to enjoy with your partner while you are being playful with them.
3. Make everything positive in your relationship foreplay.
As contrary as it may sound, the smallest ways that you acknowledge your partner’s questions and expressions are the most significant in strengthening and securing your physical bond. According to Dr Gottman’s research, there is actual legitimacy to the “romance starts in the kitchen” mantra.
Daily experiences like doing the dishes, folding laundry, watching TV, or cooking together can be opportunities for a deeper connection to occur. These can be moments to share about your day, talk about your goals, or simply to check in on how each other is feeling.
What are some daily activities or rituals that you wish your partner would do with you? Would it be nice to have them fold laundry by your side, or simply sit together at dinner and have a conversation instead of silently scrolling through your phones?
In his New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr Gottman includes an extensive list of potential activities that couples can do together throughout their day to prioritize emotional connection. Check out the list and get ideas on what you could invite your partner to do with you!
4. Make your friendship unconditional.
When you think of your closest friends, you probably know that there are few things (if any) that could dissolve the bond between you. There is an acceptance of your differences, an understanding that you may disagree on certain issues but love each other nonetheless.
Simply bringing this mentality into your marriage will do wonders for your connection and romance. Recognizing that you will have differences in opinion and ways of addressing certain issues that come up throughout your life can allow you to explore your partner in a different way.
Work stress, issues with the kids, issues with other family members, and so many other things can overflow into your marriage. There should be no conditions when it comes to showing up for your partner. Treat your partner with the same understanding and unconditional support as you would hope to receive from them.
5. Be on your partner’s team.
This goes beyond being able to accept your differences. When it comes to you and your partner versus the world, you should always take the side of your spouse. Never side with the enemy.
Show genuine interest in being on your partner’s side, and never do or say things that could leave them feeling insignificant or alone. Stand up for your partner when you see them feeling uncomfortable in a social setting. Ground yourselves in your relationship by reminding your partner of your future goals when they are doubting themselves.
As with any friendship, your marital friendship is a bond that must be nurtured and prioritized. Creating meaningful experiences, showing genuine interest in one another, prioritizing romance, and being on the same team are all simple, daily actions that you can make right now to strengthen your marriage. Cultivating these will become a lifeline for your relationship and, later down the road, could potentially save your marriage from otherwise drifting apart.
How strong is the friendship in your relationship?
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