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A spring storm bringing gales and snow to parts of New Zealand has disrupted Cook Strait ferries, closed skifields in the south, and caused slips in Wellington.
MetService issued a heavy rain watch for the Wellington region, stretching north to the Tararuas, until 9am Tuesday morning. It has … View moreA spring storm bringing gales and snow to parts of New Zealand has disrupted Cook Strait ferries, closed skifields in the south, and caused slips in Wellington.
MetService issued a heavy rain watch for the Wellington region, stretching north to the Tararuas, until 9am Tuesday morning. It has issued a strong wind watch as gale southerlies are expected to develop on Monday afternoon, and wind gusts may approach 120 kilometres an hour in exposed parts.
A slip was blocking the left lane on State Highway 58, near the State Highway 2 interchange into Silverstream. A second slip was reported on Ohiro Road, with rocks and dirt falling on top of the hood of a parked Subaru.
The New Zealand Transport Agency advised drivers to pass with care and expect some delays.
FERRIES: Bluebridge cancelled its 2pm sailing from Picton and 1.30pm from Wellington due to the weather.
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Applications to be part of the Hutt Valley-Wellington Whaitua Committee closes tomorrow. This is your chance to be part of a vision to change and care. If you have the right skills, knowledge and passion, we will like to hear from you.
To know more or for applying online, visit:
… View moreApplications to be part of the Hutt Valley-Wellington Whaitua Committee closes tomorrow. This is your chance to be part of a vision to change and care. If you have the right skills, knowledge and passion, we will like to hear from you.
To know more or for applying online, visit:
www.gw.govt.nz... If you have questions, email us at whaitua@gw.govt.nz
We're celebrating our launch on Neighbourly! Join Manchester Unity during September, October or November 2018 and take out a funeral benefit or join one of our medical schemes and be in the draw to spend a week in one of our holiday homes for free!*
Request a new member pack and start … View moreWe're celebrating our launch on Neighbourly! Join Manchester Unity during September, October or November 2018 and take out a funeral benefit or join one of our medical schemes and be in the draw to spend a week in one of our holiday homes for free!*
Request a new member pack and start enjoying all the benefits of being a member of one of the oldest organisations in New Zealand.
- Enjoy kiwi holiday homes
- Meet like-minded people
- Save money
- Protect your family’s health
- Receive kids’ scholarships
- Enjoy togetherness
Use our national network of branches. We have 26 branches nationwide that we call Lodges. The Lodge is where we meet to organise projects that help local members, discuss the local and national business of Manchester Unity, learn meeting skills and get together with friends.
* dates subject to availability
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At Stokes Valley Tennis Club we love tennis and welcome anyone interested to check us out!!
Come join us to celebrate the new season at our Junior Open Day this Sunday 2nd September from 1pm-3pm.
We will have 2 hrs of planned activities and games, free sausage sizzle, and prizes (for both kids … View moreAt Stokes Valley Tennis Club we love tennis and welcome anyone interested to check us out!!
Come join us to celebrate the new season at our Junior Open Day this Sunday 2nd September from 1pm-3pm.
We will have 2 hrs of planned activities and games, free sausage sizzle, and prizes (for both kids and adults).
Bring friends and family along for a fun start to the season.
Racquets available to borrow :)
Please check our flyer attached or our website www.stokesvalleytennisclub.org.nz...
Or contact:
Theresa Lill
Junior Convenor
0211679413 or theresalill.svtc@gmail.com
Come celebrate and serenade your Dad / Grand Dad at PIZZAVENUE this “FATHER’S DAY – 2nd Sept18.
A new pizza especially for all the lovely Dads and Grand Dads at Pizzavenue. This offer will be available only on the day and in-store.
“BANGERS AND MASH” it is 😊 – Crème fraiche base … View moreCome celebrate and serenade your Dad / Grand Dad at PIZZAVENUE this “FATHER’S DAY – 2nd Sept18.
A new pizza especially for all the lovely Dads and Grand Dads at Pizzavenue. This offer will be available only on the day and in-store.
“BANGERS AND MASH” it is 😊 – Crème fraiche base topped with seasoned mash, dark gravy, caramelised onions, peas, mozzarella, spiced sausage & streaky bacon – finished with a drizzle of smokey chipotle / BBQ sauce (Optional).
Buy any 2 large gourmet pizza’s and get our newest “Bangers and Mash” regular pizza free along with a scrumptious dessert!! – A rich dark chocolate mudcake finished with a beautiful chocolate ganache rose.
We will also be giving away 5 vouchers which will include a ‘LARGE PIZZA COMBO DEAL” of your choice.
Simply Tag someone in the comments and like our post to be in to win!! We will draw and announce all winners on the 3rd of Sept18 – The vouchers can be redeemed in-store up until the 2nd of October18.
We are starting a new programme on Monday 3rd September (two new programmes actually) for our exciting concerts towards the end of the year. This is a great time for new members to join. Mondays, 7pm at the Pettit Centre, behind Our Lady of Grace Church, Cnr Fergusson Drive and Palmer Crescent. … View moreWe are starting a new programme on Monday 3rd September (two new programmes actually) for our exciting concerts towards the end of the year. This is a great time for new members to join. Mondays, 7pm at the Pettit Centre, behind Our Lady of Grace Church, Cnr Fergusson Drive and Palmer Crescent. Ever thought about singing in a choir? Now's your chance!
Many marital therapists tell couples to expect less. If you lower your expectations, the argument goes, then you won’t be disappointed by your partner.
This advice is wrong. Donald Baucom, psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He … View moreMany marital therapists tell couples to expect less. If you lower your expectations, the argument goes, then you won’t be disappointed by your partner.
This advice is wrong. Donald Baucom, psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they expect. People with low expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated poorly, and people with high expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated well.
This suggests that by having high standards, you are far more likely to achieve the kind of relationship you want than you are by looking the other way and letting things slide.
The “Good Enough” Relationship
I encourage couples to strive for the “good enough” relationship, which sounds like settling for less than best. Isn’t that contrary to Baucom’s research findings on marital expectations?
Allow me to explain.
In a good enough relationship, people have high expectations for how they’re treated. They expect to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect. They do not tolerate emotional or physical abuse. They expect their partner to be loyal.
This does not mean they expect their relationship to be free of conflict. Even happily married couples argue. Conflict is healthy because it leads to greater understanding.
People should not expect to solve all of the problems in their relationship, either. My Love Lab studies found that almost ⅔ of relationship conflict is perpetual. As Dr. Dan Wile says, “When choosing a long-term partner… you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unsolvable problems.”
Further, it’s unrealistic to expect a relationship to heal childhood wounds, or to become a pathway to spiritual enlightenment or self-actualization. Eli Finkel, psychology professor at Northwestern University, encourages couples to “recalibrate” their marital expectations for these existential needs.
So don’t settle for being treated poorly. As a father, the best way to buffer my daughter from being in a bad relationship in the future is to treat her with love and respect, so she will expect to be treated the same way her partner.
In our empirically-based theory, the Sound Relationship House, we describe what couples in the good enough relationship do and have. They are good friends. They have a satisfying sex life. They trust one another, and are fully committed to one another. They can manage conflict constructively. That means they can arrive at mutual understanding and get to compromises that work. And they can repair effectively when they hurt one another.
They honor one another’s dreams, even if they’re different. They create a shared meaning system with shared values and ethics, beliefs, rituals, and goals.
They agree about fundamental symbols like what a home is, what love is, and how to raise their children.
Expect that.
You deserve it. It’s not unreasonable, and it’s achievable.
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