3 strategies for driving your behaviour in the best direction
Build your behaviour, and live your life, on strong foundational roots.
What is a Core Value
We all have foundational beliefs. These are broad concepts which are important to us. These have built up from childhood. Many formed from our family and culture and so on.
Our core values are the ones of top priority to us. The ones nearest to our heart are the ones that mean the most to us.
How do we know what our top core values are
The first thing is to create awareness. Awareness that we have core values and that they are important to us and that it's advantageous to know them. Three strategies to discover our core values:
1. Life Mentoring has developed an app to make it easy to rank your top values. Which values bring about a good calm internal state/feeling for you. Which resonate with you as being important. Life Mentoring App
2. Look at what and, maybe more importantly, who influences you. What do you like and admire about them. Who do you see as a mentor in your life. If you have several - look at the patterns of similarity.
3. Look at your past - what did you enjoy or not enjoy and the same with your work. If you look at what ignited some feelings in you - the negative feelings and reactions indicates that something that has happened is not matching with your values.
Do note that they can change during your life so it is recommended that you repeat the ranking process. The word - or value - means different things to different people. So its safe to say that just because someone has the same values as you it doesn't mean the life by same code as you.
Why is it important to know them
As our core values are a central part of who we are we can use them as our guidelines to live by. It is best to live with them in your awareness. When your behaviour, and way of living and behaving, matches your values then you find you are more satisfied and content. Life feels more comfortable and flows better. They also allow us to persevere and move forward in our lives. When you experience negative feelings you will notice that your values are not met. You may notice that someone has crossed your boundaries. It may be tempting to dismiss this feeling - with "I'm being too sensitive" and then ignore it. Our feelings are our red flags that something isn't fitting quite right for us. Pay attention to these feelings and have a look at what is behind them.
How can we use them to our advantage
When making decisions in life, refer to your core values. Use them to assist you with the direction that will be best for you. This will lead to more flow and comfort for you. Also by knowing your values you will know whats important to you. You can use this knowledge to help guide others to know what your boundaries are and what behaviour might lead to them crossing these boundaries. Prevention is best but if they cross the boundaries you can readily explain what has happened.
Conflicting Values
What does it mean when there are conflicting values - either between oneself and someone else (or even within ourselves). It means there are two values systems at play. We need to look at these and work out an intersection between the two.
Summary
Our values are the important concepts which underlie our behaviour. When we feel comfortable in life we are living with these in mind. We can find our values using a choice of strategies. When our boundaries are over stepped we feel an emotion - discomfort at the very least - and this is our indicator. We can then use this to either convey to others or correct the situation to get us back into comfort.
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Whether it’s a courgette takeover or a feijoa frenzy, don’t let those garden gems go to waste!
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Have a say on Petone to Grenada Link Road
NZTA plan to build a Four Lane link road from Petone to Grenada under Fasttrack legislation. They plan to take it through several well established significant native bush reserves (Seton Nossitor, Gilberds Bush, Escarpment, a small part of Belmont Park etc). These are precious recreation areas in the northern suburbs and home to an amazing array of birds. The evening birdsong in Seton Nossitor Park makes it easy to think you are not even in a city. This will all disappear forever if NZTA have their way. Under Fasttrack there is little option for consultation and feedback. Tomorrow there is an "information" session where you have a chance to engage with NZTA and find out why they are building a road straight through an established builtup suburb and mulitple areas of native bush (when there are other options that can go through bare farmland). Go down and have your say. We have to stop this senseless destruction.
Community information sessions:
Newlands Baptist Church, 5 Horokiwi Road West, on:
• Saturday 14 March from 11am–2pm
• Tuesday 17 March from 4pm–7pm
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