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An Intention of Connection - The Tool of Hope
Written by Funeral Celebrant Rhonda Diprose
Copyright 2022
Many times in life, we all need the gift of being seen and the blessing of being heard.
During the times of death, grieving, mourning and loss - or other high trauma events, we can … View moreAn Intention of Connection - The Tool of Hope
Written by Funeral Celebrant Rhonda Diprose
Copyright 2022
Many times in life, we all need the gift of being seen and the blessing of being heard.
During the times of death, grieving, mourning and loss - or other high trauma events, we can easily find ourselves in situations where we have disconnected with those who could otherwise be in our circle of support. That disconnect is created sometimes due to conflict. Conflict often results from someone or more than one person feeling they are not being heard or their words and actions are discounted.
If our grief consumes us, and we do not look to see what is happening for others. Or sometimes the person grieving just needs a person to listen. But if this does not happen then the result can be upset, annoyance and anger between two people. The problem then is that we get into a stand-off, and no one feels heard or listened to, so the vicious cycle of upset continues. Round and round we go.
We need to find a solution.
How do we have an Intention of Connection?
Listening is the tool of Hope.
Listening with our ears and, of course, listening with our eyes.
We can create HOPE with:
"I see you."
"I hear you."
"I hear what you are saying"
"I hear what you are not saying".
Active listening with the intention of connection could literally mean we listen to hold that space for the person to be heard. We listen to understand what is being said and what is left unsaid. We listen knowing that the speaker is processing their thoughts, feelings, and thinking.
Often when we listen to people, we listen to respond with a reply. We do not always need to reply except to check that we have heard correctly or show empathy.
We could respond with the wisdom of showing that we have heard and understand how things are for that person at that time.
ACTION:
Practice makes perfect!
Be Hope Focussed so that you can understand the grieving person and see them in that space.
For the next few weeks, practice active listening to your family members, friends and work colleagues - try listening so they are heard. If you practice this skill, you are more likely to create Hope for someone facing high trauma, such as the death of someone they love.
Be encouraged!
You Can Be A Difference Maker!
Be encouraged!
You Can Be A Difference Maker!
If you need someone who can listen to you, you are welcome to get in touch with me to make an appointment time. RhondaDiprose@gmail.com
Hi neighbours,
We're right in the thick of this year's Wasp Wipeout and thanks to your generous donations, we've raised over $10,000 for the Tasman Environmental Trust.
There's still plenty of work still to be done. We want this year to be the best yet for our donation … View moreHi neighbours,
We're right in the thick of this year's Wasp Wipeout and thanks to your generous donations, we've raised over $10,000 for the Tasman Environmental Trust.
There's still plenty of work still to be done. We want this year to be the best yet for our donation drive - so stand with our forests, stand with our native wildlife, stand with our volunteers and show your support.
Donate now and let's rid Aotearoa New Zealand of this destructive pest.
Is your velvet sofa looking less than luxe? Learn how to clean velvet furniture and keep it looking as sumptuous as the day you bought it.
Choosing velvet furniture is choosing to make a bold style statement in your space—there’s no ignoring its soft sheen, rich colour, and innate elegance. … View moreIs your velvet sofa looking less than luxe? Learn how to clean velvet furniture and keep it looking as sumptuous as the day you bought it.
Choosing velvet furniture is choosing to make a bold style statement in your space—there’s no ignoring its soft sheen, rich colour, and innate elegance. But velvet’s commanding presence also means that any discoloration or stains are that much more visible. No more hiding a dusty apartment…once the sunlight hits a velvet couch, there’s no hiding those annoying, allergy-inducing particles.
If you’ve opted for a bright, richly pigmented colour, like navy or chartreuse, we recommend avoiding direct sunlight, which can cause the fabric to fade. Consider window coverings substantial enough to protect your piece but lovely enough to catch the eye. Read on to learn how to clean velvet furniture and protect it from wear and tear and those inevitable spills.
Materials:
- Vacuum
- Absorbent cloth
- Soap and water or an upholstery cleaner
- Soft brush
Vacuum the fabric: Remember those pesky dust particles we were talking about? Well, in terms of regular maintenance, all you need to do to the item itself is give it a good dusting. We recommend regular vacuuming; a soft brush can also loosen surface dirt and brush it away.
Tackle spills the right way: If a friend does happen to spill their cocktail on your couch, White suggests blotting the area immediately with a clean, dry absorbent cloth. We then recommend mandating said friend to a different spot in your home. No one likes a party foul.
Test cleaning products: If a dried stain is staring you in the face and you just can’t help but do something about it, test any cleaning product (even basic soap and water) on a hidden spot to ensure it doesn’t ruin the fabric. Mix soap and water to create a sudsy solution. Use a soft cloth to blot the stain with the suds, then let the fabric dry completely.
Brush the fabric: Once the velvet is dry, use a soft, dry brush in the direction of the pile to restore its direction and loft. This will give the velvet that brand-new, never-been-touched look.
Turn to a professional: When in doubt, ask for help. It’s best to professionally clean the entire piece to ensure the colour remains uniform. To ensure your velvet furniture remains in optimal condition, you should have it professionally cleaned. Next up? Sit back, relax, and enjoy your good-as-new upholstery.
Thinking of changing power provider? Why not switch to Comtricity! 💡
By making the move to Comtricity, not only will you receive fair pricing and billing but you can support the Foundation as they share their profits with charities and schools in our community! 💙 💚
Find out more … View moreThinking of changing power provider? Why not switch to Comtricity! 💡
By making the move to Comtricity, not only will you receive fair pricing and billing but you can support the Foundation as they share their profits with charities and schools in our community! 💙 💚
Find out more through the link below.
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Good evening everyone. This is tonight’s public safety notice.
Please, please, please, when driving, Watch where you are going, not where you’ve been. And be aware, there is a pedestrian crossing at the Campbell St end of the New World carpark.
Today I got hit by a van, while crossing the … View moreGood evening everyone. This is tonight’s public safety notice.
Please, please, please, when driving, Watch where you are going, not where you’ve been. And be aware, there is a pedestrian crossing at the Campbell St end of the New World carpark.
Today I got hit by a van, while crossing the pedestrian crossing, with my son. I’m not hurt, just a few bumps and bruises, and an ache or 5, but it could have been much worse. I had to shove my son out of the path of the van, because the driver was looking left, as she pulled out of the carpark, and turned right, straight into the pedestrian crossing, and us.
Statistically, if it had been a car, I’d have ended up a lot worse than just shaken and stirred. But a van, with no protruding engine block, at that speed, was like hitting the ground, hard.
So, when you are driving, please watch in front, and be aware of everyone and everything around you, especially around pedestrian crossings.
Be safe.
Due to an increasing membership, we are about to add a 3rd van to help transport our members to their activities.
Heretuanga Seniors require a number of volunteer drivers to help support their programmes.
You will have a current vaccine pass, experience driving a 12 seater van ( car license … View moreDue to an increasing membership, we are about to add a 3rd van to help transport our members to their activities.
Heretuanga Seniors require a number of volunteer drivers to help support their programmes.
You will have a current vaccine pass, experience driving a 12 seater van ( car license required ), knowledge of Hastings and Havelock North would be anadvantage.
For more information about this fabulous opportunity, working in your community please phone Kirsteen Keene 06 870 7025 leaving your contact details.
In December 2020 my Husband and I launched Fling Cocktails. We have a range of ready to pour cocktails including; Classic Mojito, Classic Margarita, Passionfruit Martini (porn star martini) and the first NZ made Espresso Martini in a can! Think of us as your bartender in a can, with all the real … View moreIn December 2020 my Husband and I launched Fling Cocktails. We have a range of ready to pour cocktails including; Classic Mojito, Classic Margarita, Passionfruit Martini (porn star martini) and the first NZ made Espresso Martini in a can! Think of us as your bartender in a can, with all the real ingredients and flavours of a bar shaken cocktail in the convenience of a can! We've had overwhelming support from the Bay since launching and thought I'd reach out and introduce ourselves to those of you who we've not met yet! We offer free local delivery with orders through our online store.
www.flingcocktails.co.nz....
We look forward to having a Fling with you soon!
Part number 751681-421, bought, at a cost of$96, as replacement for part number HP 751875-001, but it did not work in my HP Pavilion x360 11-n009TU laptop.
Free to anyone who would like to try it.
Hi neighbours,
The summer holidays will be over soon, but you can still escape with a magazine.
Our Mags4Gifts End of Summer Sale is on now and you could be in to win 1 of 20 Hydration Heroes Gift Sets from Antipodes!
Simply purchase a subscription to the NZ House & Garden, … View moreHi neighbours,
The summer holidays will be over soon, but you can still escape with a magazine.
Our Mags4Gifts End of Summer Sale is on now and you could be in to win 1 of 20 Hydration Heroes Gift Sets from Antipodes!
Simply purchase a subscription to the NZ House & Garden, New Zealand Gardener, or the TV Guide and you're in the draw.
The Faraday museum is a real gem in our community, and the numbers of visitors and schools is increasing.
We are currently looking for some new volunteers to keep it humming.
So, if you love chatting to people, love tinkering, or getting your teeth into new projects.
Perhaps you are newly … View moreThe Faraday museum is a real gem in our community, and the numbers of visitors and schools is increasing.
We are currently looking for some new volunteers to keep it humming.
So, if you love chatting to people, love tinkering, or getting your teeth into new projects.
Perhaps you are newly retired and miss those smoko breaks, have a trade and looking to support something in your community, or maybe you are new to the area and looking for something to do while the kids are at school.
Whatever the reason we need you.
We are looking for volunteers who are able to offer @ least 3 hours each week.
If this sounds like you, then please get in touch to find out more.
Info@faradaycentre.org.nz
068352338
Alternatively come on down to 2b Faraday Street, Napier.
(Don't forget to sign in, and show your vaccine pass to grab a volunteer application form).
Table has been well used - fairly old but still has a lot of life left. Removal legs. Knightsbridge area of Taradale for pickup. Please phone 027 650 1465 or 844 6434
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