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White Ribbon is asking men to take the online pledge and stand up, speak out and act to prevent men's violence towards women.
With 41% of a front line officers time spent dealing with family violence, we need you to stand up by taking The Pledge.
Find out more at whiteribbon.org.nz
Our charity this year is Women’s Refuge – entry is by gold coin donation. Come along and enjoy a drink and canapés on Thursday 22nd November, 6pm to 8pm.
We will have demonstrations on herb growing, easy Christmas ideas, hanging baskets, expert scarf & accessory advice, you can try our … View moreOur charity this year is Women’s Refuge – entry is by gold coin donation. Come along and enjoy a drink and canapés on Thursday 22nd November, 6pm to 8pm.
We will have demonstrations on herb growing, easy Christmas ideas, hanging baskets, expert scarf & accessory advice, you can try our cheese bakers and sample beautifully decorated cupcakes.
Joy, from Heavensent, will be giving tastings of their delicious products and there will be raffles supplied by generous donors. For an extra bit of fun, our Discount Dipper will be back for the evening.
Time to relax and browse our selection of gifts, houseplants, shrubs, seedlings and fruit trees. Staff will be on hand to offer advice and solve your gardening problems.
No need to register, just turn up on the evening. There will be 50 goodie bags for the first 50 customers through our doors!
Today is World Kindness Day 2018.
Piri mai ki a Oti te Nanekoti i a ia e tūtakitaki haere nei ki ōna hoa i tēnei haerenga nui whakaharahara ōna. Pānuihia te kōrero paki mō Oti te Nanekoti ki te reo Pākehā, reo Māori anō hoki www.OatTheGoat.co.nz... | www.OtiTeNanekoti.co.nz... He mea … View moreToday is World Kindness Day 2018.
Piri mai ki a Oti te Nanekoti i a ia e tūtakitaki haere nei ki ōna hoa i tēnei haerenga nui whakaharahara ōna. Pānuihia te kōrero paki mō Oti te Nanekoti ki te reo Pākehā, reo Māori anō hoki www.OatTheGoat.co.nz... | www.OtiTeNanekoti.co.nz... He mea kinaki nā Te Tira Puoro o Aotearoa. Hei āwhina i te hunga tamariki ki te ako mō te hua o te aroha.
Join Oat the Goat as he embarks on the adventure of his life and meets some surprising new friends along the way. With music performed by the New Zealand Symphony Orchestra. Enjoy Oat the Goat, in English and te reo Māori www.OatTheGoat.co.nz... | www.OtiTeNanekoti.co.nz... Helping children learn … View moreJoin Oat the Goat as he embarks on the adventure of his life and meets some surprising new friends along the way. With music performed by the New Zealand Symphony Orchestra. Enjoy Oat the Goat, in English and te reo Māori www.OatTheGoat.co.nz... | www.OtiTeNanekoti.co.nz... Helping children learn the power of kindness!
Haven Falls can arrange any type of funeral service depending on your family’s spiritual and cultural traditions. We offer 24-hour quality care and professional service Wellington-wide, with funeral packages from $3,990 + GST. No deposit required, 30 day invoice.
Find us at 42-50 Burden … View moreHaven Falls can arrange any type of funeral service depending on your family’s spiritual and cultural traditions. We offer 24-hour quality care and professional service Wellington-wide, with funeral packages from $3,990 + GST. No deposit required, 30 day invoice.
Find us at 42-50 Burden Avenue, Wainuiomata.
Phone 04 564 3792 and 0800 428365 or visit our website www.havenfalls.co.nz for more information.
Congratulations Korokoro! Our suburb of the week last week.
Well done to all the Korokoro-weanians? Korokoro-nites? Korokoro-stodians?
Whatever the name, they're an awesome bunch of #waterlovers, which is great to see as this summer is just starting to heat up.
We need to make sure … View moreCongratulations Korokoro! Our suburb of the week last week.
Well done to all the Korokoro-weanians? Korokoro-nites? Korokoro-stodians?
Whatever the name, they're an awesome bunch of #waterlovers, which is great to see as this summer is just starting to heat up.
We need to make sure we're looking after our water so it lasts all summer long!
Tell your family and friends who live up Korokoro that they're doing a great job.
One of our favourite tips is to collect water in a rainwater tank. This water is a great way to give your garden a bit of extra love when it's hot, and can be used after an earthquake as emergency water.
What tips will you be doing this week to help your suburb take the prestigious 'Suburb of the Week' title?
#ourwaterourfuture #loveeverydrop
Another beautiful day today! With the weather heating up how will you be enjoying the water this summer?
Meet Ruby, a rower and #waterlover from Lower Hutt, who enjoys getting out on the water and thinks it's so important that we look after it.
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Cissy and Sam, have recently hit the road in the lead up to the 10th celebration of Neighbours Day Aotearoa. As they drive across the country they’ll be running workshops and reaching out to meet people who are working to create great neighbourhoods across New Zealand - like our members!
Whether… View moreCissy and Sam, have recently hit the road in the lead up to the 10th celebration of Neighbours Day Aotearoa. As they drive across the country they’ll be running workshops and reaching out to meet people who are working to create great neighbourhoods across New Zealand - like our members!
Whether you're planning a Neighbours Day Event or just want to come along and share ideas, these workshops are a great way to further connect with your local community and see how you can come together to support each other.
Join in on the fun by seeing if the road trip is coming to your corner of the country at the link below.
In celebration of our 10 year anniversary, we're holding Neighbours Day Aotearoa over 10 days (March 22-31, 2019), AND we've also come up with 10 Little Ways for individuals to celebrate, and 10 Big Ways for groups to celebrate! We think there's something to inspire just about … View moreIn celebration of our 10 year anniversary, we're holding Neighbours Day Aotearoa over 10 days (March 22-31, 2019), AND we've also come up with 10 Little Ways for individuals to celebrate, and 10 Big Ways for groups to celebrate! We think there's something to inspire just about everyone to participate in Neighbours Day Aotearoa next year - so check out how you can join in, share it with your friends, and don't forget to register your events!
Let us know how you’re celebrating Neighbours Day Aotearoa in 2019 and you could be in to win. Registering an event, no matter how small, puts you in the draw to win a $100 prezzy card or limited edition Neighbours Day Aotearoa t-shirt, plus it helps us know how many neighbours are connecting.
If love were enough, all couples would be happy. The simple truth is relationships take work.
Most of us are willing to spend hours perfecting a skill or talent, yet we expect ourselves to be Masters of Relationships with little effort.
One of the first things I ask my clients is whether or not … View moreIf love were enough, all couples would be happy. The simple truth is relationships take work.
Most of us are willing to spend hours perfecting a skill or talent, yet we expect ourselves to be Masters of Relationships with little effort.
One of the first things I ask my clients is whether or not they’re willing to do the work to improve their relationship with their partner. Almost anything is possible when both people are committed to change.
My favorite tool in the Gottman toolkit is a simple exercise that rekindles the romance and connection necessary to get a marriage back on track.
This exercise worked wonders for Sandra and David. When they first came to see me, their number one complaint was feeling like “they didn’t know each other anymore.”
After being married for ten years and having three children, their marriage had undergone some serious changes. Their lives were hectic. David worked long hours and Sandra, who stayed at home with the children, was exhausted at the end of the day. There was little time or energy left for their marriage. Over the years they grew apart.
They felt like strangers, not lovers.
Love Maps: a path to connection
In our first session I explained Dr. Gottman’s concept of building “Love Maps.” Simply put, a Love Map is the map we create in our own head of our partner’s inner world – their dreams, hopes, fears, likes, dislikes, and everything else we can gather.
If you’ve ever used Google Maps, you know that having a GPS system is really helpful when navigating a city. In the same vein, we also know that cities are constantly under construction. Try returning to your hometown 10 years later and you’ll discover that the roads have changed and your favorite corner store or restaurant is gone.
Just like a good GPS system must be constantly updated to work properly, we must also update our Love Maps of our partner if we want to continue to feel connected throughout the course of our relationship. In fact, Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that couples with detailed Love Maps have stronger relationships.
Build a Love Map of your partner
To enhance your Love Maps, first make a list of some facts you know about your partner. I don’t mean age, height, or weight, but the meatier stuff: their hopes, dreams, likes, and dislikes.
These could be facts such as:
I know the name my partner’s best friends.
I know what stresses my partner is currently facing.
I know my partner’s basic philosophy on life.
Take the Love Map Questionnaire to get an idea of how well you know your partner’s inner world.
From that list, create a list of questions you don’t know about your partner. Ask your partner to do the same.
When you’re both finished, talk about your Love Maps.
How up-to-date are they?
What’s changed?
Are there any surprises?
Be sure to ask and answer the questions on both your lists. Remember: no judgment. The purpose of this exercise is to reestablish a connection, not to blame your partner for what he/she doesn’t know.
In my work with Sandra and David, building Love Maps helped them learn new information about each other that brought them closer together. Once reconnected, they were able to more easily understand each other. When they both felt heard, understood and loved, their issues no longer seemed so difficult to deal with and were soon resolved.
If building a Love Map seems like taking the long way toward resolving your relationship issues, consider this: when we’re stuck in traffic and the most direct route isn’t working, taking the back roads is usually faster, more scenic, and ultimately gets us where we want to go.
With a little work and a willingness to learn a new skill, Sandra and David put their relationship back on track. You can do it, too.
So, if you’re looking to put your relationship back on track.. Call me on 0212689842 for a free consultation
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