Say what you need
To avoid criticism and blame in your relationship, talk about your feelings using I statements ("I feel...") and express a positive need ("I need...").
This means saying what you need, not what you don't need.
I need you to support me.
I don't need you to tell me what to do.
Hear the difference?
People don’t usually think about what they need when they're upset. Instead, they think about what their partner should stop doing wrong.
Within every negative feeling there is a longing, a wish, and, because of that, there is a recipe for success. The positive need is about highlighting ways in which your partner can shine for you.
The question of the day:
What is one thing you need right now in your relationship?
Poll: If we want to reduce speeding, what do you think actually changes driver behaviour? 🛻🚨🚓
In the Post's article on speeding penalties, the question is asked whether speeding fines are truly about road safety, or are they just a way to boost revenue for the Crown?
What do you think? Should speeding motorists receive speeding fines or demerit points?
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32.1% The sting of a fine (Money talks!)
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67.9% The threat of demerit points (Nobody wants to lose their license!)
Poll: Are you still heading to your local for your caffeine fix, or has the $$ changed your habits? ☕
Wellington’s identity is built on its cafe culture, but with costs climbing, that culture is under pressure. We’ve seen the headlines about recent closures, and it’s a tough pill to swallow along with a $6+ coffee.
We all want our favourite spots to stay open, but we also have to balance our own budgets ⚖️
We want to know: How are you handling the "coffee math" in 2026? Are you still heading to your local for a chat and a caffeine fix, or has the cost of living changed your habits?
Keen to read more about "coffee math"? The Post has you covered.
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45.9% I avoid spending money on coffee
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44.7% I still indulge at my local cafe
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9.3% Irrelevant - coffee is not for me
Share your favourite main crop potato recipe and win a copy of our mag!
Love potatoes? We will give away free copies of the May 2026 issue to readers whose potato recipes are used in our magazine. To be in the running, make sure you email your family's favourite way to enjoy potatoes: mailbox@nzgardener.co.nz, by March 1, 2026.
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