2573 days ago

Intimate Conversations

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

Not really. Not entirely. Fear was taken from the reality of Merriam-Webster. Intimacy was taken from the reality of human relationships. Ultimately, when we are afraid of the possible consequences, we cannot trust our partners to listen and fully support us – especially not when it comes to our deepest feelings, hopes, or dreams. And why should we?

Our internal wiring prevents us from opening our hearts to those we fear will hurt us emotionally, from worries that they will let us down, to terror and anxiety about their potential to leave us. This is, in the language of evolutionary psychology, called an adaptive trait. It’s healthy. We need to protect ourselves!

Dr. Gottman understands this. His book on trust tells us to listen to these feelings, but also provides incredibly important methods for discerning how trust functions (or malfunctions) in our relationships. He doesn’t waste any time in getting to the core of the issue: trust begins in emotional attunement. Emotional attunement is often rooted in the ways in which we speak to each other – trust is built and broken in our everyday conversation.

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5 days ago

Poll: Should the government levy industries that contribute to financial hardship?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

As reported in the Post, there’s a $30 million funding gap in financial mentoring. This has led to services closing and mentors stepping in unpaid just to keep helping people in need 🪙💰🪙

One proposed solution? Small levies on industries that profit from financial hardship — like banks, casinos, and similar companies.

So we want to hear what you think:
Should the government ask these industries to contribute?

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Should the government levy industries that contribute to financial hardship?
  • 59.6% Yes, supporting people is important!
    59.6% Complete
  • 25.9% No, individuals should take responsibility
    25.9% Complete
  • 14.5% ... It is complicated
    14.5% Complete
984 votes
33 minutes ago

Storm damage and garden clean ups

Ian Hamilton from Natures choice gardening services - Lower Hutt

Strorm
Damage if you need a tree removed
Call us on 0272430951
And we can help

1 hour ago

Documenting the RiverLink Project around Melling, Pharazyn St and Marsden St

Tim from Alicetown

Kia Ora, Neighbours. For the last couple of years I've been documenting with my camera the changes in my area around the extensive work going on with the RiverLink project (Melling Interchange/New Melling Bridge/New Melling Railway Station/ Melling Station walk bridge / Clearance of Pharazyn St and Marsden St and Stop bank work).

I pass no judgements on the work. My photos simply record what's happening.
Early blog posts are photo essays of the the demolition of Pharazyn St and Marsden St residential and industrial properties. Later photos are the more up to date records happening right now.
I'd welcome your feedback, especially with better information about what's happening, as there seems to be a number of sites specialising in their own work but not a comprehensive coordinated site with details and links.

Here's the link. Enjoy. www.riverlinkphotos.blogspot.com...