If you're hurting, the world stops and I listen
One of The Four Horsemen is defensiveness, which is an attempt to ward off a perceived attack.
“It’s not my fault that we’re always late.”
When we feel accused unjustly, we fish for excuses so that our partner will back off. Unfortunately, this strategy isn't very effective.
That's because defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect, “The problem isn’t me, it’s you.”
Instead, take responsibility for your words or actions that upset your partner. This opens the door to repair and reconnection.
“Well, you’re right. Part of this is my fault – I need to do a better job managing my time.”
Couples who are successful adopt the motto that, "If you’re hurting, the world stops and I listen. I’m with you."
Poll: Is it ok to regift something that you have been given?
🎁 Holiday Gift Chat!
Do you ever regift?
What’s your take on asking for a receipt if a gift doesn’t fit?
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0% Yes! It's better to regift what I don't need
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0% No. It's the thought and effort that matters
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Some Choice News!
Many New Zealand gardens aren’t seeing as many monarch butterflies fluttering around their swan plants and flower beds these days — the hungry Asian paper wasp has been taking its toll.
Thanks to people like Alan Baldick, who’s made it his mission to protect the monarch, his neighbours still get to enjoy these beautiful butterflies in their own backyards.
Thinking about planting something to invite more butterflies, bees, and birds into your garden?
Thanks for your mahi, Alan! We hope this brings a smile!
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