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Don't listen to reply...

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

..listen to understand.

It's a familiar scenario. You and your partner are having a conversation and you're listening and nodding along in agreement, but you're also forming your response in your mind.

In fact, your response is practically on the tip of your tongue, and you're almost ready to interrupt the conversation to say it. And it can happen in any situation—with co-workers, friends, and family.

While we are all guilty of doing this, it's problematic because you aren't fully attentive and mindful of what your partner is saying. You have a great response ready to go, but you might have missed an important detail about your partner's thoughts or feelings.

Instead, just slow down a bit and really listen. Wait to think about your response until your partner has finished talking. Not only will you have better conversations, but you'll also understand your partner, or anyone else, a lot more.

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