2852 days ago

Say what you need

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

To avoid criticism and blame in your relationship, talk about your feelings using I statements ("I feel...") and express a positive need ("I need...").

This means saying what you need, not what you don't need.

I need you to support me.

I don't need you to tell me what to do.

Hear the difference?

People don’t usually think about what they need when they're upset. Instead, they think about what their partner should stop doing wrong.

Within every negative feeling there is a longing, a wish, and, because of that, there is a recipe for success. The positive need is about highlighting ways in which your partner can shine for you.

The question of the day:
 What is one thing you need right now in your relationship?

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