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It’s ‘April Falls’ this month, and we’re raising awareness of preventing falls. We want to help you stay on your feet and living the life you want to live.
As we age, the risk of having a fall increases. Those over the age of 65 have a 1 in 3 chance of having a fall and those over 80 … View moreIt’s ‘April Falls’ this month, and we’re raising awareness of preventing falls. We want to help you stay on your feet and living the life you want to live.
As we age, the risk of having a fall increases. Those over the age of 65 have a 1 in 3 chance of having a fall and those over 80 it’s 1 in 2.
Having a fall can be devastating and can often result in a broken bone, which is painful and can take a long time to heal stopping us from doing the things we love.
The good news is that many falls are preventable. A new movement called Live Stronger for Longer aims to help reduce the risk of having a fall so we can live an independent and active life.
Having good strength and balance is key to staying on your feet. You can find approved community strength and balance classes in your area and practical information, advice, and resources on reducing the risk of falls.
Live Stronger for Longer and join the movement today.
Proudly brought to you by ACC, HQSC, MOH and your local community health providers.
It's been another stellar sporting year in the Hutt and we want to celebrate the successes of our athletes. The Hutt Valley Sports Awards nominations close April 13, so if you know a deserving sportsman or sportswoman, volunteer, coach, team or just someone who's given their all to … View moreIt's been another stellar sporting year in the Hutt and we want to celebrate the successes of our athletes. The Hutt Valley Sports Awards nominations close April 13, so if you know a deserving sportsman or sportswoman, volunteer, coach, team or just someone who's given their all to sports, head to the link below and best of luck!
True friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but never in heart.”
This quote rings true for couples. We all want to know the secret to making love last, but what if it was as simple as just being your partner’s friend?
Does that sound a little too easy?
According to research by Dr … View moreTrue friends are never apart; maybe in distance, but never in heart.”
This quote rings true for couples. We all want to know the secret to making love last, but what if it was as simple as just being your partner’s friend?
Does that sound a little too easy?
According to research by Dr John Gottman, long-term vitality and connection are maintained through moments of intentional friendship woven throughout the course of your relationship.
Below are five simple ways to strengthen the friendship in your marriage.
1. Make small moments of pivotal experiences.
Think about the honeymoon phase of your relationship. That time when everything about your partner seemed fascinating. Eros had taken hold of you, and everything from your partner’s hair follicles to their crazy comments to the passionate way they looked at you drew you even closer to them. You were head over heels!
Fast forward a year or two into your relationship. No doubt there are moments that still draw you to your partner, but you notice that “flame” is a little less vibrant and it seems like more of a chore to make time to be together.
This is when the intentional work of maintaining your marital friendship is most important.
Couples in long-term relationships must learn to make the seemingly small and mundane moments actually pivotal moments that show your partner you are in tune with their world.
“Are we out of olive oil? I forgot to check when I was in the kitchen earlier.” Partner shrugs and doesn’t look up from the magazine they are reading.
or…
Partner puts the magazine down and responds: “Hmm, I have no idea. But I’ll check on my way out and stop by the store on my way back from the gym later and grab one!”
The difference is that you intentionally take the time to tune in, actively listen to, and respond to your partner in a way that leaves them acknowledged and heard.
2. Express genuine interest in your partner.
Do you do fun things together during your free time? You don’t have to have the same interests as your partner, but you can absolutely enjoy time spent together by engaging in one of their (or your) interests.
Open yourself up to the opportunity of doing things you may not otherwise do on your own, for the sake of your relationship. What you will find is that, through your willingness to do so, these activities actually become enjoyable. The goal is not to force yourself to be playful, if you don’t enjoy being playful, but to look for moments to enjoy with your partner while you are being playful with them.
3. Make everything positive in your relationship foreplay.
As contrary as it may sound, the smallest ways that you acknowledge your partner’s questions and expressions are the most significant in strengthening and securing your physical bond. According to Dr Gottman’s research, there is actual legitimacy to the “romance starts in the kitchen” mantra.
Daily experiences like doing the dishes, folding laundry, watching TV, or cooking together can be opportunities for a deeper connection to occur. These can be moments to share about your day, talk about your goals, or simply to check in on how each other is feeling.
What are some daily activities or rituals that you wish your partner would do with you? Would it be nice to have them fold laundry by your side, or simply sit together at dinner and have a conversation instead of silently scrolling through your phones?
In his New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr Gottman includes an extensive list of potential activities that couples can do together throughout their day to prioritize emotional connection. Check out the list and get ideas on what you could invite your partner to do with you!
4. Make your friendship unconditional.
When you think of your closest friends, you probably know that there are few things (if any) that could dissolve the bond between you. There is an acceptance of your differences, an understanding that you may disagree on certain issues but love each other nonetheless.
Simply bringing this mentality into your marriage will do wonders for your connection and romance. Recognizing that you will have differences in opinion and ways of addressing certain issues that come up throughout your life can allow you to explore your partner in a different way.
Work stress, issues with the kids, issues with other family members, and so many other things can overflow into your marriage. There should be no conditions when it comes to showing up for your partner. Treat your partner with the same understanding and unconditional support as you would hope to receive from them.
5. Be on your partner’s team.
This goes beyond being able to accept your differences. When it comes to you and your partner versus the world, you should always take the side of your spouse. Never side with the enemy.
Show genuine interest in being on your partner’s side, and never do or say things that could leave them feeling insignificant or alone. Stand up for your partner when you see them feeling uncomfortable in a social setting. Ground yourselves in your relationship by reminding your partner of your future goals when they are doubting themselves.
As with any friendship, your marital friendship is a bond that must be nurtured and prioritized. Creating meaningful experiences, showing genuine interest in one another, prioritizing romance, and being on the same team are all simple, daily actions that you can make right now to strengthen your marriage. Cultivating these will become a lifeline for your relationship and, later down the road, could potentially save your marriage from otherwise drifting apart.
How strong is the friendship in your relationship?
Hi Neighbors!!
What's on next week?
Sunday morning (8th) we have a Healthy Active Lifestyle Event where you get the opportunity to come and find out more about our product range for both inner and outer nutrition and talk to people about the results they have had in achieving a healthy … View moreHi Neighbors!!
What's on next week?
Sunday morning (8th) we have a Healthy Active Lifestyle Event where you get the opportunity to come and find out more about our product range for both inner and outer nutrition and talk to people about the results they have had in achieving a healthy weight, increasing energy levels, losing cellulite, improving the appearance of their skin and much more. You can win prizes too but you cannot purchase anything from the expo. For more information and to request your Free Guest Pass click the link. You'll also get the opportunity to do a complementary Body Composition Scan - find out what your body is made up of.
www.trilogynz.com...
We have Fit Club on Monday and Wednesday at 6.30pm Dyer Street School Hall - For more info and to register click the Fit Club Link
www.trilogynz.com...
We have the opportunity for a complementary hands on Skin Pampering Session where you get to try our skin care range and offer feedback. No obligation to purchase anything unless you absolutely love it!!! For me info and to make a booking click the link for Lower Hutt Skin Club and select Helen as the person who invited you along.
myskinclub.weebly.com...
Have an amazing week!!
Helen
Come along and meet with our councillors and council staff to find out more about our plans for the future of our extraordinary region!
Visit our events page on our website to see where and when we'll be in your neighbourhood www.gw.govt.nz...
Don't forget to have your say on our … View moreCome along and meet with our councillors and council staff to find out more about our plans for the future of our extraordinary region!
Visit our events page on our website to see where and when we'll be in your neighbourhood www.gw.govt.nz...
Don't forget to have your say on our Ten-year Plan, and Revenue and Finance Policy. Consultation closes Sunday April 29, visit www.whatmatters.co.nz...
The Great Community Clean Up kicks off on 16th April. It’s your chance to get out and muck in to make your neighbourhood beautiful! You can think big if you like, but it’s better to just think green - even picking up rubbish on your street is great! You’ll … View moreThe Great Community Clean Up kicks off on 16th April. It’s your chance to get out and muck in to make your neighbourhood beautiful! You can think big if you like, but it’s better to just think green - even picking up rubbish on your street is great! You’ll get a clean-up pack from us when you register, and you’ll have the chance to win some great prizes!
Find out more and register your event now.
With a higher than usual influx of kittens this year please support the Upper Hutt Animal Rescue Society and you’ll be rewarded!
We are raising funds and you can help. Order the NEW 2018 | 2019 Entertainment Book or Entertainment Digital Membership and you will receive hundreds of valuable … View moreWith a higher than usual influx of kittens this year please support the Upper Hutt Animal Rescue Society and you’ll be rewarded!
We are raising funds and you can help. Order the NEW 2018 | 2019 Entertainment Book or Entertainment Digital Membership and you will receive hundreds of valuable offers for everything you love to do, and you will also be supporting us.
Please order at: www.entertainmentbook.co.nz...
Use just a few of the offers and you'll more than cover the cost of your Membership!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT!
Right now everyone in the Wellington region pays the same amount towards flood protection work. We are all impacted by floods in one way or another, but some of us benefit from flood protection projects more than others. We’re reviewing how we fund flood protection and we want to know what you … View moreRight now everyone in the Wellington region pays the same amount towards flood protection work. We are all impacted by floods in one way or another, but some of us benefit from flood protection projects more than others. We’re reviewing how we fund flood protection and we want to know what you think
Who should pay more for flood protection?
Have your say on our Ten-year Plan, consultation closes Sunday April 29, visit www.whatmatters.co.nz...
The New Zealand government has announced a compulsory airbag recall affecting 50,000 vehicles. NZTA states members are 'strongly advised to respond promptly to the recall notification. If your car is under active recall, contact the supplier as soon as possible and make an appointment to get … View moreThe New Zealand government has announced a compulsory airbag recall affecting 50,000 vehicles. NZTA states members are 'strongly advised to respond promptly to the recall notification. If your car is under active recall, contact the supplier as soon as possible and make an appointment to get the airbags replaced'.
Here's everything you need to know:
1) Check if your car is affected
2) Find out more about the recall.
3) Read information on why you need to have your airbag replaced.
We guzzle our way through 295 million cups of takeaway coffee a year. Most can't be recycled and end up in landfill. Some people believe recyclable and compostable cups are the way to go but others say we should cut out takeaway cups all together. What do you think? How do we deal with the … View moreWe guzzle our way through 295 million cups of takeaway coffee a year. Most can't be recycled and end up in landfill. Some people believe recyclable and compostable cups are the way to go but others say we should cut out takeaway cups all together. What do you think? How do we deal with the waste? Do you use takeaway cups? Or do you have a reusable cup?
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If you’re keen to make a difference in the great outdoors, come and join us as a volunteer in our regional parks.
From planting and conservation to helping with Riding for the Disabled, you could be an important part of the amazing things happening in our parks every day, right here on our … View moreIf you’re keen to make a difference in the great outdoors, come and join us as a volunteer in our regional parks.
From planting and conservation to helping with Riding for the Disabled, you could be an important part of the amazing things happening in our parks every day, right here on our doorstep.
Our fig tree has still got figs - would anyone like to come and grab some? No charge because you do all the work of harvesting. Think of all that yummy jam and chutney you could make! We have very technology advanced tools to help you - an unbent coat hanger for reaching, a tyre in the tree as a… View moreOur fig tree has still got figs - would anyone like to come and grab some? No charge because you do all the work of harvesting. Think of all that yummy jam and chutney you could make! We have very technology advanced tools to help you - an unbent coat hanger for reaching, a tyre in the tree as a platform, and egg cartons to transport your fig rewards back to your house.
I am representing New Zealand at international medieval fighting tournaments in Italy and Scotland this year in May. For a look at my fighting and travel itinerary, you can see it on my fundraising video.
I have set myself the target of raising $5k (NZ) and I would greatly appreciate it if you share my video with others, encourage donations to my fighting funds, and wish me luck.
Video: www.youtube.com...
Donations: tinyurl.com...
A Landmark report is suggesting our rural roads should be reduced to 70kmh. So, is it a good idea?
To read more click here.
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