16 ways to fall in Love all over again
Dr. John Gottman, the nation’s leading marriage researcher, suggests that couples hoping to spark romance need to turn towards each other even when they don’t feel like it.
Yes, even when you’re exhausted or irritated. Friendship is absolutely essential to thriving marriages. In relationships that thrive, partners consistently make and receive bids for positive connection.
Here are 16 practical ways for you to start turning towards each other:
Schedule a next date night and keep the plans a surprise. The anticipation will spark a renewed sense of fun.
Send flirty texts to each other throughout the day. Trust me, your partner will appreciate it.
Make foreplay a priority. Make more room in your calendar to make out before sex.
Be affectionate and playful with each other in front of others. It’s not enough to just brag to each other in private, it’s significant to compliment your spouse in public.
Start a new hobby together. Brainstorm some ideas and create a list of shared interests.
Show appreciation by saying “Thank you,” and “I appreciate all you do.” This goes a long way in showing respect to each other.
Take a walk hand in hand. Nothing gets the blood moving and the connection juices flowing like taking a walk around the block.
Focus on the positive qualities of each other by writing them down and posting it around the house.
Plan a vacation together – no kids allowed. It doesn’t even have to be extravagant, but time alone is so important.
Dream together which helps build security. Have you created a dream board where you jot down your goals or things you want to do together? Go for it!
Pay attention to your spouse more than you pay attention to your phone & TV. Less screen time, more face time.
Reminisce about your favorite date nights, wedding day, honeymoon, and travels together by pulling out old photos.
Learn something new about your spouse. Pick up a deck of Love Map cards which contain fun questions to ask each other. Stay thirsty, I mean curious, my friends.
Buy a new board game and have a game night together.
Poll: If we want to reduce speeding, what do you think actually changes driver behaviour? 🛻🚨🚓
In the Post's article on speeding penalties, the question is asked whether speeding fines are truly about road safety, or are they just a way to boost revenue for the Crown?
What do you think? Should speeding motorists receive speeding fines or demerit points?
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31.2% The sting of a fine (Money talks!)
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68.8% The threat of demerit points (Nobody wants to lose their license!)
Poll: Are you still heading to your local for your caffeine fix, or has the $$ changed your habits? ☕
Wellington’s identity is built on its cafe culture, but with costs climbing, that culture is under pressure. We’ve seen the headlines about recent closures, and it’s a tough pill to swallow along with a $6+ coffee.
We all want our favourite spots to stay open, but we also have to balance our own budgets ⚖️
We want to know: How are you handling the "coffee math" in 2026? Are you still heading to your local for a chat and a caffeine fix, or has the cost of living changed your habits?
Keen to read more about "coffee math"? The Post has you covered.
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46.4% I avoid spending money on coffee
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44.1% I still indulge at my local cafe
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9.5% Irrelevant - coffee is not for me
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