Free Thinking, Non-Authoritarian Parents (or who wish to be:)

Jack from Castor Bay

FREE FRIENDS FORUM 25: PATERNALIST POWER CORRUPTS, PARENT POWER CORRUPTS ABSOLUTELY—INTERGENERATIONAL CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Chinese Internet Addiction Brainwashing Camps as Symptom of Collective Trauma Re-Victimisation

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“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” John Acton

“The gods visit the sins of the fathers upon the children.” Euripides

““Revictimization is actually the central cause of anti-social behavior, and addiction to trauma is at its core. It is not surprising that prison psychiatrists find violent criminals invariably repeat in their crime the emotional traumas, abuse and humiliation of their childhood. Traumas are therefore restaged as a defense, with the persecutory self as the stage director. Restaging as a defense against dissociated trauma is the crucial flaw in the evolution of the human mind understandable from the viewpoint of the individual as a way of maintaining sanity, but tragic in its effects upon society, since it means that early traumas will be magnified onto the historical stage into war, domination and self-destructive social behavior. And because we also restage by inflicting our childhood terrors upon our children, generation after generation, our addiction to the slaughterbench of history has been relentless.” Lloyd deMause, The Emotional Life of Nations

The Chinese Communist Party’s (CCP) Obsessive Compulsive Control Disorder (OCCD) inflicted on its populace has created a new “Mental Illness” labeled “Internet Addiction” and hundreds of para-military and psychiatric-like treatment camps are profiting by promising parents they will “cure” the “addicted” adolescents from their Internet “Mental Illness”. As a learner-teacher of Parent Effectiveness Training (PET) who lived and taught in China 2003 to 2015 I have lived experience with the Chinese “Tiger Mother/Father” authoritarian ownership parenting typical there. My Substack posts on this theme
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DIAGNOSIA—A VR EXPERIENCE BY MENGTAI ZHANG AND LEMON GUO. 1:19
“Diagnosia” portrays Mengtai’s memories of being incarcerated in a military-operated Internet addiction camp in Beijing in 2007, where internet addiction and other youth issues were treated as a severe mental disorder with sometimes violent means. By tracing the lineage of “Internet addiction” in China’s cultural context, the work discusses how societies can create or manifest pathologies as a tool for social control.
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CAN PARENT CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDES? Gordon Thomas, founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (PET)
“Parents find it difficult to throw off the oppressive value system, acquired from their own parents and now causing them to be excessively judgmental and unaccepting of their children. Still others have trouble modifying their attitude of “owning” their children or their deep commitment to a goal of making their children fit a preconceived mold; this attitude is found mostly in parents who have been strongly influenced by the dogmas of a few religious sects that teach parents to have a moral obligation to make converts out of their children, even though it may mean using the power and authority of the parent or using methods of influence not too dissimilar from brainwashing and thought control.”

TEACHING EFFECTIVE ALTERNATIVES TO AUTHORITY AND POWER
“As a society we must urgently adopt the goal of finding and teaching effective alternatives to authority and power in dealing with other persons—children or adults—alternatives that will produce human beings with sufficient courage, autonomy, and self-discipline to resist being controlled by authority when obedience to that authority would contradict their own sense of what is right and what is wrong. Parents can raise children who are responsible, self-disciplined, and cooperative without relying on the weapon of fear; they can learn how to influence children to behave out of genuine consideration for the needs of parents rather than out of fear of punishment or withdrawal of privileges.” Thomas Gordon, founder of Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)

DR. THOMAS GORDON ON PARENT EFFECTIVENESS TRAINING - A SHIFT AWAY FROM POWER AND CONTROL ParentEffectivenessTraining, June 14, 2017. 1:09
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