4 hours ago

Nurturing Connections - A Call for Unity, and Valuing Others!

David from East Tamaki

Nurturing Connections, Supporting Public Servants’ Mental Health, and a Call for Unity, Understanding, and Valuing Friendships.

At the present time of the current job climate and the rapid growth of our mental health situation within New Zealand, it is vital for us to stop and ponder from our fast-paced, busy lifestyle so that we can have our own private reflective time of renewal, restoration, and hope, which has prompted me to reflect deeply on the importance of valuing life, nurturing relationships, and treasuring the gift of friendship. Hence, I trust this reflection encourages you to challenge yourself more deeply and renew your appreciation for the need to spend meaningful time together, fostering strong and supportive connections, especially as many individuals today continue to face significant challenges.

Increasingly, individuals navigating transitions from high-pressure roles, such as those within the public sector, are striving to regain stability while managing ongoing mental health challenges. In these circumstances, supportive, understanding, and nurturing friendships become even more apparent.

It is widely recognised that work-related stress affects one in five New Zealand workers, as reported by the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand. Notably, the public sector is one area where this statistic is particularly evident. In 2023, there were 63, 117 full-time equivalent public servants working across a broad range of occupations, with nearly half based in the Wellington region.

Currently, public servants across various government departments are experiencing significant stress and mental health challenges as the National Government’s cost-saving measures take full effect. Further information on supporting public servants can be found at the following link: baptist.nz..., where an article I have written has been published on the Baptist Churches of New Zealand website.

Moreover, undue criticism and disrespect directed towards public servants can heighten stress levels and erode healthy working environments. During the COVID-19 pandemic, heightened strain and financial pressures contributed to the departure of many highly skilled public servants. In some cases, individuals sought legal advice to navigate their exit processes due to misunderstandings or the pressures they faced. These experiences have left lasting emotional impacts on many.

In addition, the lingering stigma, including misconceptions that public servants are selfish or self-centred, continues to affect mental well-being, even in the post-pandemic environment adversely. Likewise, there is a reluctance in today’s society to consider diverse perspectives, which can exacerbate stress and, for some, trigger traumatic memories or worsen mental health challenges. Consequently, many individuals have sought counselling to support their journey toward healing as they continue to face the pressures of the current economic climate.

In light of these realities, it is vital to prioritise valuing and appreciating our friends and loved ones, recognising that life is fragile. It is equally important to seek clarification and understanding when friends share genuine concerns rather than misinterpreting their intentions. Besides, building and preserving trust requires a willingness to listen carefully and empathetically.

Furthermore, offering empathy and support to those experiencing challenges is essential. Equally, fostering conversations marked by love, grace, and a genuine commitment to understanding diverse perspectives can help create a more compassionate and resilient society.

At the same time, turning to faith for strength and guidance is invaluable. Scriptural passages such as Matthew 11: 28–30 remind us to surrender our burdens to the Lord and find rest in Him. Other passages, including Jeremiah 4: 11–28, 3:22, Isaiah 40: 12 –31, and Ezekiel 37: 1–14, call us to focus on the Lord and to pursue heartfelt repentance and renewal.

Therefore, it is vital to continue to support one another, cultivating communities characterised by love, understanding, and respect. Prioritising time with friends and family, fostering open and respectful communication, and ensuring that others feel valued are essential to strengthening and sustaining our connections.

It is imperative to call upon the older generation (i.e. Baby Boomers, etc.) to take proactive steps towards bridging inter-generational and generational gaps. Thus, this can be achieved by valuing, encouraging, and mentoring the younger generation (i.e. Millennials, etc.) rather than exercising control within professional and personal environments. Promoting mutual respect and understanding by intentionally seeking to view matters through others’ perspectives and the other perspective of the lens contributes to creating positive, balanced, and diverse spaces. Similarly, fostering conversations marked by love, grace, and a genuine commitment to understanding diverse perspectives can help foster mutual trust and meaningful relationships.

Consequently, it is vital to commit to demonstrating consistent respect, seeking to understand others’ viewpoints, and allowing individuals the opportunity to explain themselves before forming premature judgements or decisions. For further reflections on compassion and unity, please visit: baptist.nz... .

Together, let us work towards building communities characterised by kōtahitanga (unity and togetherness) and manaakitanga (hospitality and kindness), where all individuals, regardless of age, ethnicity, or background, are supported, respected, and valued. In doing so, it is crucial for us to contribute our part to reducing mental health challenges and the rates of suicide among the younger generations of today’s society, as well as the public servants who have been severely impacted without being cared for and valued within our community and of today’s society.

Overall, we ought to strive to embody God’s image by showing respect, sympathy, and empathy, and not displaying our self-centeredness towards everyone in our community by being there for those who have experienced profound grief and hurt from what they have encountered by our human nature of the wicked one slandering the government, which has a significant impact of those that are going through a challenging phase in their life and be grateful for the jobs and our current calling, which we have been placed in for a reason and season in our life.

Finally, I challenge all of us to stop and ponder whether we do honestly and genuinely care for others who have been suffering majorly in their mental health crisis, and are lonely without hanging out with others who people value and treasure as good friends. Significantly, our beloved ones.

Thank - you.

Atua (God) Bless.

* Please check out the article below, which I have published on Substack: nzanonymouschristian.substack.com... .

More messages from your neighbours
1 day ago

Poll: Should the government levy industries that contribute to financial hardship?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

As reported in the Post, there’s a $30 million funding gap in financial mentoring. This has led to services closing and mentors stepping in unpaid just to keep helping people in need 🪙💰🪙

One proposed solution? Small levies on industries that profit from financial hardship — like banks, casinos, and similar companies.

So we want to hear what you think:
Should the government ask these industries to contribute?

Image
Should the government levy industries that contribute to financial hardship?
  • 60.8% Yes, supporting people is important!
    60.8% Complete
  • 23.5% No, individuals should take responsibility
    23.5% Complete
  • 15.7% ... It is complicated
    15.7% Complete
319 votes
1 hour ago

Night-time chipsealing works on SH2

NZ Transport Agency (NZTA)

From 9 to 17 February, stop/go traffic management will be in place on SH2 between McPherson Road and Dimmock Road on multiple nights between 9pm and 5am (Sundays to Thursdays).

During the day, all lanes will be open, but speed restrictions will apply to allow the chipseal to set and to protect vehicles travelling over the newly laid surface.

There may be delays to your journey when travelling through the area. This is weather dependent so check NZTA Journey Planner before you travel.
Click to find out more

Image
4 hours ago

Seen, Unseen, and Still Serving — Before We Speak: The Measure of Our Responsibility and Trust!

David from East Tamaki

Why work, mental health, public service, and respect demand a deeper understanding of sympathy and empathy as we embody the body of Christ and bear witness to others?

At first glance, the debate surrounding working from home versus working in the office appears to centre on efficiency, accountability, and organisational performance. Yet, such a framing remains insufficient. At a deeper level, this debate reveals something far more searching about how society understands work, how it speaks about those who serve within complex systems, and how readily empathy is extended when suffering is not immediately visible.

Too often, public discourse proceeds as though all workers experience labour in identical ways, as though personal circumstances are uniform, and as though human resilience is inexhaustible. In opposition to this, Scripture resists such flattening of experience. More precisely, humanity is portrayed as embodied and relational, entrusted with meaningful labour rather than labour that overwhelms or diminishes dignity, as stated in Genesis 2:15.1 From this standpoint, when work is discussed without attentiveness to context, power, and vulnerability, harm inevitably follows.

For many individuals, working from home has enabled continued participation in employment that might otherwise have become unsustainable. Of particular note, reduced commuting demands, increased flexibility, and greater capacity to attend to health and caregiving responsibilities have allowed people to remain engaged rather than excluded. Viewed in this way, remote work has not constituted indulgence but survival. On this basis, the biblical call to bear one another’s burdens is not theoretical but profoundly practical, as stated in Galatians 6:2.

Set against this, it must also be recognised that working in the office continues to carry relational and communal significance. It is worth noting that physical presence allows trust to emerge through ordinary interaction, mentoring to develop organically, and concern to be perceived before distress escalates into crisis. Within such settings, the workplace may function as a site of shared responsibility rather than surveillance. In parallel, Scripture affirms this relational vision, reminding communities that formation occurs not merely through shared task but through shared life, as stated in Acts 2:42 – 47.

At this point, a more confronting question arises. Put plainly, how readily are judgments formed about experiences never personally encountered? By extension, how frequently are circumstances interpreted through one’s own lens rather than approached with a willingness to understand another’s? At this juncture, the wisdom tradition speaks directly into this tendency, urging restraint in speech and attentiveness in listening, as stated in James 1:19. Absent such restraint, debates about work move beyond disagreement and begin to wound those already carrying exhaustion, grief, or quiet struggle.

In answer to this, traditions that prioritise listening and discernment offer a necessary corrective. Notably, the New Zealand National Baptist Hui of 2024 and 2025, convened in accordance with commitments to collective reflection and shared responsibility, were grounded in the conviction that wisdom emerges through attentive presence, humility, and openness to diverse perspectives. Practically speaking, these gatherings prioritised shared discernment and prayerful listening, thereby modelling a form of community that resists efficiency as its primary value. Within this framework, difference was approached with care rather than suspicion, and herein lies a challenge to contemporary workplaces and public discourse alike. Taken together, such an approach affirms that understanding is formed relationally rather than transactionally. In turn, these hui offer a compelling example of how communities may be shaped by humility, restraint, and mutual regard rather than assumption or control.2

With this in mind, the manner in which public servants are spoken about demands particular care. Over recent years, many within the public service have endured sustained pressure, heightened scrutiny, and a marked erosion of respect from members of the public. In effect, such roles require absorbing frustration and hostility directed at systems over which individual employees hold limited control, while simultaneously maintaining professionalism, neutrality, and restraint. As a result, these conditions impose an undue and unnecessary emotional burden upon those whose labour exists for the benefit of the wider community.

Beyond this, public servants operate within constraints rarely visible from the outside. Specifically, legislative frameworks, political direction, confidentiality obligations, and persistently high workloads shape daily practice, often amid limited resources and minimal margin for error. Importantly, evidence from the Public Service Commission confirms that significant proportions of public servants experience ongoing work-related stress and mental health strain. On that note, these findings are not abstractions. Rather, they represent people who continue to serve faithfully while carrying responsibility for outcomes that affect the well-being of communities and the nation as a whole.

Within this reality, assumptions that working in the public service is easy require gentle but honest correction. For those who hold such views, placing oneself within these roles would offer a sobering and necessary perspective, as only lived experience reveals the intensity of the work, the constraints under which it is performed, and the moral weight such responsibilities carry. In that light, public servants do not merely complete tasks. Instead, such roles require acting ethically and professionally at all times, upholding the Privacy Act and a wide range of government legislation, the scope of which varies according to department and sector. Moreover, many public servants are sworn under a secrecy oath, binding them to protect sensitive information, internal processes, and the public trust, even in the face of misunderstanding or criticism. Furthermore, ethical integrity is consistently required, including the declaration of any actual, potential, or perceived conflicts of interest, such as when family members are employed within the public service, and this obligation must be upheld with full professionalism at all times.

In fulfilling these obligations, responsibility is borne for people, information, and decisions that shape the life of communities and the country, often under considerable pressure and with limited freedom to respond publicly. Within these constraints, public servants are frequently able to disclose the stress arising from their roles only to a trusted counsellor, bound by confidentiality and professional care, and not within their own family.

Alongside these demands, another reality remains largely unspoken. Namely, confidentiality and non-disclosure requirements frequently prevent public servants from speaking openly about workplace experiences. As a consequence, inaccurate narratives are often left unchallenged. Silence, however, is easily misinterpreted. Here again, Scripture cautions against such misjudgement, reminding readers not to assess one another by outward appearance alone, as stated in 1 Samuel 16:7.

Nor, importantly, does the impact of public service necessarily conclude when employment ends. Instead, transitioning out of such roles can prove difficult, as skills developed within complex public systems are not always readily recognised elsewhere. At the same time, many former public servants continue to live with the mental health consequences of prolonged stress, including burnout and anxiety, while carrying the fear of being questioned about why employment ceased or has not resumed. In such moments, even casually posed enquiries may reopen wounds that remain unresolved.

Consequently, a persistent cultural assumption endures that working for the government is easy or insulated from harm. To maintain such a view, however, is to overlook the intensity, constraint, and moral responsibility inherent in public service. On the other hand, such assumptions often fail to recognise the degree of trust and honesty upon which public service depends, without realising that public servants can be trusted to act with integrity, including where such individuals serve wholeheartedly in their ministry roles voluntarily as well, even when their work is misunderstood or unseen. In reality, these roles uphold systems that sustain education, health, justice, social support, and democratic trust. Through such labour, communities are shaped, the vulnerable are protected, and society is enabled to function.

In light of the above, the present conversation demands more than opinion. Rather, it calls for inward examination and outward care. Specifically, it calls for sympathy that acknowledges suffering, empathy that seeks understanding, and love demonstrated not merely through words but through restraint, reflection, and action. Equally, it calls for resistance to boundaries that isolate, exclude, or silence, particularly when such barriers deepen loneliness rather than foster community.

Finally, the question is not whether working from home or working in the office is preferable. Instead, the more pressing question concerns how one chooses to speak, judge, and respond. Most importantly, if life appears easy from a distance, then perhaps the invitation is to step into another’s shoes rather than to speak from afar. Nevertheless, such a posture requires humility, attentiveness to inward thought, and love enacted through outward expression.

Let’s allow this discomfort to form us, for such unease often marks the beginning of greater understanding and demands sympathy, empathy, and support, calling us decisively towards unity and shared responsibility

Thank - you.

Atua (God) Bless.

** Please check out the article below, which I have published on Substack: substack.com... .