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Our need for love and connection is not just romantic or fanciful?

Ann from Relationship Wellbeing Specialist

Our need for love and connection is not just romantic or fanciful; and it's not just the result of immense social pressure to achieve coupledom as a badge of adulthood or maturity (though these pressures are REAL).

Our need to feel connected is *primal*. But there is no way to completely avoid the pain of uncertainty that relationship will confront us with - and that is because we are not meant to sacrifice growth for certainty.

Fear of uncertainty, of heartbreak, of the inevitability of loss - these are an essential part of the experience of relationship. They make us stretch and evolve and adapt into something greater than we were. If we persist, allowing our primal need for closeness and connection to guide us, painful experiences forge us into something greater, wiser, and infinitely more compassionate and loving than we were before.

Each heartache can makes us more qualified - infinitely more qualified - to love BIGGER, stronger, more fearlessly than before. And so, strangely, loss can make us greater...so that when we love again, we attract a FAR greater love than the ones we've known before. You can heal your heartache and move forward.

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1 day ago

Poll: Do you set New Year’s resolutions?

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

🎉 2026 is almost here!

We’re curious ... how do you welcome it?
Do you set resolutions, follow special traditions, or just go with the flow?

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Do you set New Year’s resolutions?
  • 10.2% Yes! New Year, New Me
    10.2% Complete
  • 20.3% Yes - but I rarely stick to them
    20.3% Complete
  • 69.5% Nah - not for me
    69.5% Complete
636 votes
14 days ago

Scam Alert: Fake information regarding December Bonuses from MSD

The Team from Neighbourly.co.nz

The Ministry of Social Development is reporting that fake information is circulating about new ‘December bonuses’ or ‘benefit increases’

If you get suspicious communication, please contact Netsafe.

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7 days ago

Today’s Mind-Bender is the Last of the Year! Can You Guess It Before Everyone Else? 🌟🎁🌲

The Riddler from The Neighbourly Riddler

I dance in the sky with green and gold, a spectacle few are lucky to behold; I’m best seen in the south, a celestial sight—what am I, lighting up the New Zealand night?

Do you think you know the answer? Simply 'Like' this post and we'll post the answer in the comments below at 2pm on the day!

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