Our need for love and connection is not just romantic or fanciful?
Our need for love and connection is not just romantic or fanciful; and it's not just the result of immense social pressure to achieve coupledom as a badge of adulthood or maturity (though these pressures are REAL).
Our need to feel connected is *primal*. But there is no way to completely avoid the pain of uncertainty that relationship will confront us with - and that is because we are not meant to sacrifice growth for certainty.
Fear of uncertainty, of heartbreak, of the inevitability of loss - these are an essential part of the experience of relationship. They make us stretch and evolve and adapt into something greater than we were. If we persist, allowing our primal need for closeness and connection to guide us, painful experiences forge us into something greater, wiser, and infinitely more compassionate and loving than we were before.
Each heartache can makes us more qualified - infinitely more qualified - to love BIGGER, stronger, more fearlessly than before. And so, strangely, loss can make us greater...so that when we love again, we attract a FAR greater love than the ones we've known before. You can heal your heartache and move forward.
Poll: Do you think NZ should ban social media for youth?
The Australian Prime Minister has expressed plans to ban social media use for children.
This would make it illegal for under 16-year-olds to have accounts on platforms including TikTok, Instagram, Facebook and X.
Social media platforms would be tasked with ensuring children have no access (under-age children and their parents wouldn’t be penalised for breaching the age limit)
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Do you think NZ should follow suit? Vote in our poll and share your thoughts below.
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85.5% Yes
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13.4% No
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1.1% Other - I'll share below
What's your favourite recipe for courgettes?
Kia ora neighbours. If you've got a family recipe for courgettes, we'd love to see it and maybe publish it in our magazine. Send your recipe to mailbox@nzgardener.co.nz, and if we use it in the mag, you will receive a free copy of our January 2025 issue.
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There are some really awful people around at the moment. This is what happened on Sunday.
We live in Hinemoa Street opposite the Waiwhetu Stream. At around 3.40 in the afternoon I was looking out my window and saw a car pull up and start to feed the geese and ducks out the window. Then The passenger an asian man jumped out and threw himself onto a goose. he picked it up and put it the boot of the car.
I immediately ran over and stood in front of his car to stop him moving I also called my husband to help. A lovely man was riding his bike and saw it and stopped to help me. The driver tried to drive into me but I didnt move. He tried telling us it was his pet. These are wild geese.
They had a cage in the boot and some wire all ready to catch the poor bird like they have done it before. My husband took the bird from the car and released it. I then moved out of the way and after lots of abuse from the driver they drove off threatening to come back and get more.
No one should be allowed to take these beautiful birds and certainly not like this. they are all starting to have wee babies at the moment the whole thing was so upsetting to me. Another neighbour further down the road also saw it all happen.
Please keep a look out for this car and if you see them by the stream go over and watch them lets all stop this happening.
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